problem with renting student

angryaine · 11-10-2007 06:49AM #1

hi, i have a huge problem and need to take action fast. I dont know what to do!!!!!

i own my own home and have 2 male 1st year students renting from me for the college year.
1 of them is fine, the other, well the other is a completely different kettle of fish.
at first he was fine,a bit quiet, kept to himself, went out, etc etc.
I have to clean his room at the weekends, its part of the deal.
Now, in the past 2 weeks he found something. something in his pants. something which he likes. and the girls like even more. a lot more. he is very popular with the girls. VERY POPULAR.
i work during the day, and he is quite busy too....
last week when i was cleaning, i saw a box of c****ms in his room. it was full. i didnt pass any remarks, that sort of thing is his own business.
but this weekend i was cleaning, and saw 2 empty boxes in the bin, with a lot of "supporting evience" in there also. uuuurrrrggggh!
So Im not very happy with him. I think hes "busy" all over the house. and yesterday i came home to find an ornament broken off the wall. hes treating my house like a stud farm...What should i do?i feel like he is going behind my back. I want to set up a video camcorder or something but i dunno if i should.

jackwalli · 11-10-2007 07:13AM

angryaine wrote:

I want to set up a video camcorder or something but i dunno if i should.

A bit weird tbh....

uberwolf · 11-10-2007 07:27AM

he should have a little more respect than to fornicate all over the house, but he's hardly breaking the terms of any lease in doing so! It's only been two weeks, so you are overreacting.

The ornament should be raised with them.

How you got roped into cleaning his room bewilders me

someothername · 11-10-2007 07:29AM

tell him your not happy about him sh@gging all over your house and that he either keep it in the bedroom or move along somewhere else.....
also you clean his room? are you for real? tell him to clean his own room and have a bit of thought..

tbh · 11-10-2007 07:41AM

angryaine wrote:

hi, i have a huge problem and need to take action fast. I dont know what to do!!!!!

i own my own home and have 2 male 1st year students renting from me for the college year.
1 of them is fine, the other, well the other is a completely different kettle of fish.
at first he was fine,a bit quiet, kept to himself, went out, etc etc.
I have to clean his room at the weekends, its part of the deal.
Now, in the past 2 weeks he found something. something in his pants. something which he likes. and the girls like even more. a lot more. he is very popular with the girls. VERY POPULAR.
i work during the day, and he is quite busy too....
last week when i was cleaning, i saw a box of c****ms in his room. it was full. i didnt pass any remarks, that sort of thing is his own business.
but this weekend i was cleaning, and saw 2 empty boxes in the bin, with a lot of "supporting evience" in there also. uuuurrrrggggh!
So Im not very happy with him. I think hes "busy" all over the house. and yesterday i came home to find an ornament broken off the wall. hes treating my house like a stud farm...What should i do?i feel like he is going behind my back. I want to set up a video camcorder or something but i dunno if i should.

None of your business tbh. (unless he's doing it in front of you).

The Hill Billy · 11-10-2007 07:42AM

You have no proof that he's having sex anywhere apart from his room. You said yourself that the used condoms are deposited in the bin in his room. If it is an issue for you when cleaning his room - tell him that it wasn't part of the deal to clear up his used jonnies & could he get rid of them himself.

As for the comment that he's treating the place like a "stud farm" - that's a bit OTT given that all this is supposition & you have not one shred of proof (that you've shared with us anyway).

The clincher here are your thoughts of secretly video-taping him. That could get you locked up for a start. Do you want to get proof of him having sex outside his room so you can kick him out of your house, OR some audio-visual goodies of him in action? Are you perhaps a wee bit jealous of the "attention" that you think he is giving to other girls & secretly want some of that action yourself?

Maybe your question would be better put to a tabloid agony aunt.

celt262 · 11-10-2007 07:42AM

Set up the camcorder and record him and tell him if he doesn't keep to his room or tidy up his own mess that your going to send it to his family and post it on the internet.

tbh · 11-10-2007 07:43AM

celt262 wrote:

Set up the camcorder and record him and tell him if he doesn't keep to his room or tidy up his own mess that your going to send it to his family and post it on the internet.

it would be less complicated legally just to hand over the keys to your house.

Beruthiel · 11-10-2007 07:46AM

celt262 wrote:

Set up the camcorder and record him and tell him if he doesn't keep to his room or tidy up his own mess that your going to send it to his family and post it on the internet.

Read this forums Charter.
Another comment like that one and I'm banning you.
B

hussey · 11-10-2007 07:47AM

You don't have any evidence - apart from a used box of condoms in his room - which isn't any evidence at all.

You could be bordering on illegal activities if you set up a hidden camera ... how would you feel if you were filmed?

Bring up the smashed ornament .. but I wouldn't accuse him of breaking it whilst shagging though.

what exactly are you not happy about - he is a student and he is getting some, big deal get over it - Yeah if he was shagging in kitchen or something you might have a point, but you have only your imagination supporting you on that theory.

mikemac · 11-10-2007 07:48AM

First of all, any 1st year lad who is living away from home for the first time will have problems being tidy. So it doesn't suprise me that the room is a kip. Do yourself a favour and get him to clean his own room.

Setting up a camcorder is a sick idea.

Tbh, it sounds like jealously. The OP doesn't mention if she a partner and I wonder is she jealous that she isn't getting all this action and attention too.
I more or less agree with Hill Billy above

Knockoff Nige · 11-10-2007 07:59AM

YOU clean his room? Is he rich and paying you ridiculous money on rent? Personally, I think theres something very suspicious about that. Would I be right in saying that you tidy their rooms as you WANT to know everything that goes on in your house? Your video camera idea is really pathetic.

Marksie · 11-10-2007 08:07AM

what were the rental terms? No visitors?

Is he either keeping you awake or disturbing you duting the day?
Or are you in fact now sensitised to it.

I would say that what he does in his room as long as it does not excessively annoy anyone else is his business.

In communal areas he should have more respect and caution, though you do have no conclusive proof of that. And videoing it is not a good excuse.

The only thing i can suggest you do, as long as he is not disturbing you with his activities, is ask him to dispose of his materials himself.
The deal was you cleaned and tidied his room, not handled his used prophylactics.

Beruthiel · 11-10-2007 08:21AM

angryaine wrote:

i feel like he is going behind my back. I want to set up a video camcorder or something but i dunno if i should.

That's going a bit far and could get you in a lot of trouble.
He's in college, of course he's going to have sex with anything that moves! Have you forgotten what it's like to be that age?
He's not doing anything that's against the law.

I also wonder why you are cleaning his room? That's more than a bit odd.

milod · 11-10-2007 08:21AM

Just a few observations OP...

He may be masturbating with condoms - if you haven't actually seen the women involved you just never know. You say yourself that you have seen or heard no evidence so just how is he disturbing you?

You seem to have your own issues around sexual activity... this is evident in the negativity surrounding your descriptions - nasty, icky mess, ugh etc etc. You use euphemisms/metaphors instead of words like penis, sperm, cum etc and can't even bring yourself to spell the word condom!

Despite your apparent distaste, you seem overly prurient and a little jealous of this chap's recreational activities. The suggestion to hide a video camera is richly ironic...

I think that apart from quite rightly asking him to clear up his own bodily secretions, and perhaps asking him to pay for the broken ornament, you should drop the issue and look into your own feelings around it...

axer · 11-10-2007 08:22AM

angryaine wrote:

hi, i have a huge problem and need to take action fast. I dont know what to do!!!!!

i own my own home and have 2 male 1st year students renting from me for the college year.
1 of them is fine, the other, well the other is a completely different kettle of fish.
at first he was fine,a bit quiet, kept to himself, went out, etc etc.
I have to clean his room at the weekends, its part of the deal.
Now, in the past 2 weeks he found something. something in his pants. something which he likes. and the girls like even more. a lot more. he is very popular with the girls. VERY POPULAR.
i work during the day, and he is quite busy too....
last week when i was cleaning, i saw a box of c****ms in his room. it was full. i didnt pass any remarks, that sort of thing is his own business.
but this weekend i was cleaning, and saw 2 empty boxes in the bin, with a lot of "supporting evience" in there also. uuuurrrrggggh!
So Im not very happy with him. I think hes "busy" all over the house. and yesterday i came home to find an ornament broken off the wall. hes treating my house like a stud farm...What should i do?i feel like he is going behind my back. I want to set up a video camcorder or something but i dunno if i should.

Have you actually seen him coming in with these girls? are you sure he is not just pleasing himself?

matt-dublin · 11-10-2007 08:45AM

em...
you're the landlord right??

then WHY THE F*CK ARE YOU CLEANING HIS ROOM?????

and more importantly why the hell are you going through his pockets while doing so???

this is bizzare.

Stop cleaning his room, its his mess and you're not his mother/father!!!

andy anyway, even if he is bringing girls or just one girl home, its none of your business as long as he keeps it to his room, until you catch them in the act outside his room there's nothing you can do.

and to set up a camera, well thats just weird, and borderline voyeuristic!

Bluetonic · 11-10-2007 09:07AM

matt-dublin wrote:

and more importantly why the hell are you going through his pockets while doing so???

I missed this bit in the OP :rolleyes:

matt-dublin · 11-10-2007 09:10AM

whoops, i misread that! i thought the op said they found something in his pants, i realise whats going on there now! whoops!

still the rest of my points are still valid, im presuming the op is also female, is there a possibility of jelousy as well??

Mazeire · 11-10-2007 09:13AM

angryaine wrote:

hi, i have a huge problem and need to take action fast. I dont know what to do!!!!!

i own my own home and have 2 male 1st year students renting from me for the college year.
1 of them is fine, the other, well the other is a completely different kettle of fish.
at first he was fine,a bit quiet, kept to himself, went out, etc etc.
I have to clean his room at the weekends, its part of the deal.
Now, in the past 2 weeks he found something. something in his pants. something which he likes. and the girls like even more. a lot more. he is very popular with the girls. VERY POPULAR.
i work during the day, and he is quite busy too....
last week when i was cleaning, i saw a box of c****ms in his room. it was full. i didnt pass any remarks, that sort of thing is his own business.
but this weekend i was cleaning, and saw 2 empty boxes in the bin, with a lot of "supporting evience" in there also. uuuurrrrggggh!
So Im not very happy with him. I think hes "busy" all over the house. and yesterday i came home to find an ornament broken off the wall. hes treating my house like a stud farm...What should i do?i feel like he is going behind my back. I want to set up a video camcorder or something but i dunno if i should.

Was this bin in his room? Then it sounds like he is keeping his um...personal buisness to his personal space that he is paying good money to rent off you. Absolutely raise the issue of the ornament with him. Now i don't know the exact legal implications of it Aine, but i'd imagine that if you evict someone for having consensual sex in their room there would be hell to pay.

tbh · 11-10-2007 09:17AM

OP, why don't you contact the PTRB and say you've been evicted for doing what your tennent is doing, then at least you'll know what comeback he has if you do evict him. You are registered with the PTRB, right?

celt262 · 11-10-2007 09:33AM

tbh wrote:

it would be less complicated legally just to hand over the keys to your house.

What do u mean??

Quote:
Originally Posted by celt262
Set up the camcorder and record him and tell him if he doesn't keep to his room or tidy up his own mess that your going to send it to his family and post it on the internet.

Read this forums Charter.
Another comment like that one and I'm banning you.
B

Why?? it was him who said he might set up camcorder!

Clepto-L · 11-10-2007 09:35AM

Angryaine I can see your problem....... You are a dirty Minx who wants a bit of the action herself!!! You said "you feel like he is going behing your back"......was that part of the deal too that you get first dibs??
Only one cure for you - get yourself down to Abrakebabra and get a Garlic & Cheese Fries with extra Garlic.......that will cure your pangs of lust after your students.....

Mazeire · 11-10-2007 09:42AM

tbh wrote:

OP, why don't you contact the PTRB and say you've been evicted for doing what your tennent is doing, then at least you'll know what comeback he has if you do evict him. You are registered with the PTRB, right?

Or in the case that ypu're not registered with them get on to threshold and do the same thing

tbh · 11-10-2007 09:43AM

celt262 wrote:

What do u mean??

Quote:
Originally Posted by celt262
Set up the camcorder and record him and tell him if he doesn't keep to his room or tidy up his own mess that your going to send it to his family and post it on the internet.

Read this forums Charter.
Another comment like that one and I'm banning you.
B

Why?? it was him who said he might set up camcorder!

I mean putting a camcorder in someones room without their permission is so highly illegal, that they might as well save themselves the hassle of being sued and just hand over the keys.
tbh, I get the impression that the OP feels the studes are lucky to have somewhere to live, especially her house. The fact is, she's taking money off them and so they are entitled to treat the house like their own.

zeusnero · 11-10-2007 10:00AM

tbh wrote:

I mean putting a camcorder in someones room without their permission is so highly illegal, that they might as well save themselves the hassle of being sued and just hand over the keys.

From the OP it appears to me she's primarily complaining about him having sex all over the house, and not confining his activities to his own room, which is perfectly fair imo.

Also it appears that she was not indicating she wanted to setup the video recorder in his room per se but maybe in a common room, like the one where he broke the ornament (tbc). I'm not sure what the legal implications are for this though. It is her own house and surely someone can setup a video recorder in their own sitting room right? Granted it would be questionable morally (i.e. what the hell would she do with the tape...) but from a legal standpoint?

Jesus Quintana · 11-10-2007 10:01AM

What do you hope to achieve by putting a camcorder in his room?? Apart from confirming your penchant for voyeurism. Are you just upset cos he is getting his cookies tossed and you aint??

StormWarrior · 11-10-2007 10:08AM

Unless he's a mature student, he's probably never lived away from home before and now wants to enjoy his freedom, you have to expect that and a bit of untidiness if you rent to young students. I don't think you can complain about him having sex unless it is very loud and frequent and therefore disturbing you regularly. Have you got any proof that he is doing it anywhere apart from his room, eg - stains on the sofa or something?

angryaine · 11-10-2007 10:11AM

when i said about the camcorder, i was indicating that i would put it somewhere in the house, to see who was coming and going, to give me an idea of whats going on in my house.

I know a few other landlords here in Limerick also, who rent to students from UL, and they have the same deal for student tennants, eg they rent the room from mon to Friday, the stutent must go home at the weekend, and during the weekend I clean the room.
oh i dont know, did i just get a bad student or are they(renters) all like this? is tis why people rent?!! maybe should i encourage him to see a priest? this is my first year with students (or any tennants) in the same house as me. Im used to having my own space, Its not too long ago since i moved out of home. or should i go to the students union?

Beruthiel · 11-10-2007 10:17AM

angryaine wrote:

maybe should i encourage him to see a priest?

Ok now you've got to be trolling.
But you couldn't possibly be trolling this site and still be silly enough to let me know where you're working - which was easy for me to find out as I have looked at your sign up details.
I suggest you go away before you annoy me anymore.
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