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Red in the face

  • 30-10-2007 11:54pm
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Hello there, i'm a 23 year old guy and the title should give you the idea of what is the matter.

    Ever since the teenage years until today i've always had a problem with going bright red in the face sometimes when i'm talking to other people. This really affects my confidence when it happens and on bad days it can cause me to shun social interaction altogether.

    I often find myself cutting conversations short or trying to hide from the person (hand up to my face etc.) im talking with which no doubt makes me look rude and unwelcoming when i'm neither such things.

    Sometimes i just wonder if i knew for a fact that i wouldnt go red in the face i wouldn't be so shy and miss out on a full life. (Whether this is true or not i don't know). Luckily its not a constant theme in my life and other days i can be on a roll and be very talkative with not a bit of blush in sight.

    I know of counselling that can help with this problem but it seems a long time to spend on the problem.

    I've tried going down the root of going bright red but choosing to ignore it and trying to keep any conversation going. This can be very hard as i can't help but feel they are seeing it as some sort of weakness. And it is in no way foolproof.

    Does anyone think this is a good plan of action if i stick at it and force myself into situations i know will trigger that blood rush? If i do it enough might it become less of an issue for me?

    Cheers for any advice you can offer.


Comments

  • #2
    Clairecluck
    Closed Accounts Posts: 95 ✭✭Clairecluck


    Hi there,

    I know exactly how you feel. I used to suffer from this A LOT a few years ago. I'd go red sometimes even when I wasn't really that embarrassed, say if a boss spoke to me or something. I'd then get really concious of going red and this would make it worse. My head would be on the verge of exploding sometimes. :o The only thing I could say to you would be that it does ease as you get older (I'm 26). Although it hasn't fully gone away I am able to control it a bit better now. Its a confidence thing. Work on your self confidence a bit and it should improve.

    I have heard aswell that for extreme cases there is a procedure where people get the gland underneath their arm which causes it cut and this controls the situation, but thats only for the exteme extreme cases.
    :)


  • #3
    Rhiannon14
    Closed Accounts Posts: 183 ✭✭Rhiannon14


    Sounds about right to me. The confidence has to come first. *ponders if concealer might help* Best of luck :)


  • #4
    dirtydress
    Closed Accounts Posts: 356 ✭✭dirtydress


    You say its bothering you but you dont want to spend time treating it? Maybe it's not that big of a problem? There are no quick-fixes!

    This was on that show Embarrassing Illnesses not too long ago...I think they recommended counselling to get to the root of why you feel embarrased...i could be wrong but either way its a treatable condition and you should see your GP who can refer you.


  • #5
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    Hi poster.
    I suffer from the exact same thing. It begun when i was in my early teens and got progressivley worse. So much so i was missing University as my class was so big and full of my peers, and even if i had to get up or my phone rang my face would go on fire

    However
    I bought a book which changed my life
    Its called coping with blushing and its by Robert Edelmann
    GET THIS BOOK
    Go online and order it, Amazon would do it
    There are no quick fixes to our problem, i should know
    There is keyhole surgery but only a few years ago a well known Solicitor died on the operating table getting the procedure done and the side effects are far worse than blushing i.e. excessive sweating and anxiousness

    This is a far more common problem than people think
    Thankfully now my life has changed so much for the better thanks to this book
    Obvioulsy i still blush, everybody blushes, but I dont turn red anymore due to my own making


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