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Shower break-in

  • 30-01-2009 7:27pm
    #1
    Eric_85
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭


    I had an incident with one of the tenants in the property that I currently occupy. A few months ago I was told by her that I take the shower for too long and such things should be talked about. I answered that a house is a place you live and you should not be bound by any obligations and just feel relaxed. I always wait for as long as it takes for anybody to take a shower and it is rather my own problem if I can't make it in time. So I said I don't find these types of issues to really be necessary even to talk about. She has got mad and said swearingly that than she will break the shower door the next time. At the time I did not think she actually will. During the few month there was a single time when she knocked on the door angrily while I was in the shower but I ignored it. Two days ago in the afternoon it happened again. No "sorry", no asking for an favour, just an angry knock. I was actually finishing my shower but ignored it anyway.
    Then she started to scream with an angry voice that she needs to get in right now. I answered loudly and calmly that I cannot go out right now as I haven't finished yet and that there may be another shower in the house for her aid. She repeated continuously getting mad that she needs it right now. I asked if she was O.K. all in the same loud and calm manner. She than screamed that "she has a job interview and she is getting paid". I answered that I will be out shortly. She screamed: "- No, move your ass out right now!". I said that I don't think I am going to tolerate such attitude. After which with a repetitive knock she actually broke the door in. Luckily, I was in the towel already finished. She was particulary mad and just screamed "OUT". I slowly, not to provokate an assault took my belongings, mentioned the name of Jesus and walked out.
    Of course I do not talk to her except greeting since after.

    What else should I do about it? There is another shower in the apartment which works when the heating is on though I am not sure if it was on that partiular time. I find her behaviour completely unappropriate and potentially dangerous. Should I report it to a landlady? I don't like to bring scandals up just feel too much a man for it but of course I can sacrafice pride to a reason. The door is closed by a key as a second lock for now but I also have the impression that she could have told the landlady herself already giving whatever reason. The landlady did not talk to me about that though.

    Curiously, if I would break to a female while she would be taking shower that will probably be viewed as a sexual assault? And if she assaults me this would be also the hassle I do not need - reporting a little girl giving me a slap for staying too long in the shower, 'cause that's probably what I should do if that is the case?


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  • #2
    Alanstrainor
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 23,157 ✭✭✭✭Alanstrainor


    That is insane! Report that childish woman. She has no right to tell you what to do. And breaking into the bathroom while you're having a shower is, well, well out of order. Stand up for yourself, and dont let this bully carry on like this.


  • #3
    Karen_*
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,611 ✭✭✭Karen_*


    What time of the day do you take your shower and for how long? Is she waiting to get ready for work?


  • #4
    Asok
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 6,628 ✭✭✭Asok


    If you are taking longer showers than everyone else and in the afternoon are you paying any bit extra towards the cost of heating the water?


  • #5
    DarkJager
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,960 ✭✭✭DarkJager


    Karen_* wrote: »
    What time of the day do you take your shower and for how long? Is she waiting to get ready for work?

    That does not and should not make any difference at all. He is paying rent like everyone else, so he is entitled to use the facilities of the house as he wants - not when some immature drama queen decides she wants to use the bathroom.


    Absolutely report her to the landlord, and give her an ultimatum of removing this jumped up freak from the house or you will leave yourself. You do not have to put up with that sort of abuse at all, and I'm sure if it was you that forced your way in the gardai would have been up very shortly after.

    Hang her out to dry.


  • #6
    IRISH RAIL
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,097 ✭✭✭IRISH RAIL


    find yourself another place and tell the landlady exatly why you are leaving
    that girl is a nutter
    and it wouldnt suprise me if she made up a story about you breaking in to get attention.


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  • #7
    Eric_85
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭Eric_85


    Karen_* wrote: »
    What time of the day do you take your shower and for how long? Is she waiting to get ready for work?

    I usually take a good throughout shower once a day not exceeding 40 minutes and not less than twenty. She states to take 15 minutes. I do measure most of my shower times by watching on the clocks before and after. I never measured hers or anyone elses. Time ago this could have been and at least once was early in the morning crossing her schedule to the extent of twenty minutes apparently. But nowadays this usually happens later during the day or in the late evenings due to recent changes in my working hours.
    Asok wrote: »
    If you are taking longer showers than everyone else and in the afternoon are you paying any bit extra towards the cost of heating the water?

    No I do not pay extra towards the electricity bill. I do not know for sure if I am taking shower longer than everyone else, but supposely and affirmatively yes I do.


  • #8
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    DarkJager wrote: »
    That does not and should not make any difference at all. He is paying rent like everyone else, so he is entitled to use the facilities of the house as he wants - not when some immature drama queen decides she wants to use the bathroom.
    Ah no in fairness, fair enough technically he can take as long as he wants but if its in the morning and she doesnt have access to any other shower then its just common courtesy to do the decent thing. Its just ignorant to let other people waiting for long.

    That said she sounds like a psycho, as a matter of fact Id be taking even longer showers if somone was acting like that to me.


  • #9
    dyl10
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,355 ✭✭✭dyl10


    She sounds like a nutcase and you should report but how long do you take in the shower?:confused:


  • #10
    Mr. Frost
    Closed Accounts Posts: 726 ✭✭✭Mr. Frost


    What the hell are you doing for 40 minutes in the shower? That's ridiculous. You don't need more than 5-10 minutes, if you're a guy. Or maybe a bit more if you've really, really long hair.


  • #11
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    I think I have to go against the grain here and side with the girl. Yes, she handled it wrong, at least she tried to bring it up with you like an adult first, to which she was plainly shot down.

    Living with different people is all about compromise, how long does it take to have a shower ffs? You were already out of the shower when she was knocking on the door, why not just let her in? Instead you ignored her, only adding fuel to the fire.

    In future, before you're going to use the shower for a prolonged period of time, just mention it to your housemates that you're going to have a shower if anyone needs to use the toilet etc first.

    No offense, but your post comes across as very smug, as if you're proud of the fact you pissed her off.


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  • #12
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I usually take a good throughout shower once a day not exceeding 40 minutes and not less than twenty. She states to take 15 minutes. I do measure most of my shower times by watching on the clocks before and after. I never measured hers or anyone elses. Time ago this could have been and at least once was early in the morning crossing her schedule to the extent of twenty minutes apparently. But nowadays this usually happens later during the day or in the late evenings due to recent changes in my working hours.



    No I do not pay extra towards the electricity bill. I do not know for sure if I am taking shower longer than everyone else, but supposely and affirmatively yes I do.

    Well thats different
    If someone was hogging the shower for more than 20 mins in the morning Id go mental too. Most lads dont need no more than 3 to 5 mins in the shower.
    Do you do this just to p1ss her off?


  • #13
    Wisesmurf
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,011 ✭✭✭Wisesmurf


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I usually take a good throughout shower once a day not exceeding 40 minutes and not less than twenty. She states to take 15 minutes. I do measure most of my shower times by watching on the clocks before and after. I never measured hers or anyone elses. Time ago this could have been and at least once was early in the morning crossing her schedule to the extent of twenty minutes apparently. But nowadays this usually happens later during the day or in the late evenings due to recent changes in my working hours.



    No I do not pay extra towards the electricity bill. I do not know for sure if I am taking shower longer than everyone else, but supposely and affirmatively yes I do.

    I'd call a 20-40 min shower excessive peticularly if your scheduled overlap. surely 10-15 mins MAX is enough for a shower...

    I think you're not giving the entire picture here..


  • #14
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    No offense, but your post comes across as very smug, as if you're proud of the fact you pissed her off.

    Agreed, If any of my housemates took that long and didnt pay for it Id be getting pissed off.


  • #15
    kwalshe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 959 ✭✭✭kwalshe


    Can you just lock the door? This is totally unacceptable, It is a real breach of you privacy, lock the tramp out and enjoy listening to her going beserk outside.... Or you could just set her up and wait for her to "break in" and be sitting on the ****ter pretending to pushing out Apollo 13


  • #16
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    kwalshe wrote: »
    Can you just lock the door? This is totally unacceptable, It is a real breach of you privacy, lock the tramp out and enjoy listening to her going beserk outside.... Or you could just set her up and wait for her to "break in" and be sitting on the ****ter pretending to pushing out Apollo 13
    Yep, fight anger with retardation, good idea! :rolleyes:


  • #17
    Mr. Frost
    Closed Accounts Posts: 726 ✭✭✭Mr. Frost


    kwalshe wrote: »
    Can you just lock the door? This is totally unacceptable, It is a real breach of you privacy, lock the tramp out and enjoy listening to her going beserk outside.... Or you could just set her up and wait for her to "break in" and be sitting on the ****ter pretending to pushing out Apollo 13

    Maybe unacceptable on her part but so is taking up to 40 minutes for a shower. Complete lack of consideration for the others living there.


  • #18
    pvt.joker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,985 ✭✭✭pvt.joker


    sorry, but wtf do you be doing for so long in the shower. If anyone I lived with was in it for that long, I'd be breaking down the door too.


  • #19
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    i have to be at work by a particular time each morning and if anyone was stuck in a shower for 40 mins in the morning i would either have to go to work smelly or get up ridiculously early.
    you cant expect sharing with people to hog a shower for 20-40 mins. i take 5-8 max.
    i would have broken down the door too rather than miss a job interview or be late for work]be a bit more considerate to the other people living with you. 40 mins?


  • #20
    kwalshe
    Closed Accounts Posts: 959 ✭✭✭kwalshe


    MagicMarker wrote: »
    Yep, fight anger with retardation, good idea! :rolleyes:
    Mr. Frost wrote: »
    Maybe unacceptable on her part but so is taking up to 40 minutes for a shower. Complete lack of consideration for the others living there.
    pvt.joker wrote: »
    sorry, but wtf do you be doing for so long in the shower. If anyone I lived with was in it for that long, I'd be breaking down the door too.

    Relax , I'm only having a laugh... Lighten up... Do you honestly think it's ok to burst in on somebody in a bathroom like that , Maybe he does need to consider other peoples need some more , but you cannot condone what she did


  • #21
    DarkJager
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,960 ✭✭✭DarkJager


    pvt.joker wrote: »
    sorry, but wtf do you be doing for so long in the shower. If anyone I lived with was in it for that long, I'd be breaking down the door too.

    It shouldn't matter what length of time he's in there for, so long as its not deliberate abuse just to piss off the housemate.

    However you look at it, forcing entry to the bathroom is completely unacceptable. I know if anyone broke the door in while I was having a shower, they wouldn't be long getting their face broken as well.


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  • #22
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    kwalshe wrote: »
    Relax , I'm only having a laugh... Lighten up... Do you honestly think it's ok to burst in on somebody in a bathroom like that , Maybe he does need to consider other peoples need some more , but you cannot condone what she did
    It sounds like she was banging on the door and accidentally broke it in. I don't think there was a Johnny or an axe involved.


  • #23
    Mr. Frost
    Closed Accounts Posts: 726 ✭✭✭Mr. Frost


    DarkJager wrote: »
    It shouldn't matter what length of time he's in there for, so long as its not deliberate abuse just to piss off the housemate.

    However you look at it, forcing entry to the bathroom is completely unacceptable. I know if anyone broke the door in while I was having a shower, they wouldn't be long getting their face broken as well.

    :rolleyes:


  • #24
    pvt.joker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,985 ✭✭✭pvt.joker


    of course it should matter how long he is in for.

    Looks like this thread has backfired on you OP .


  • #25
    00112984
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,600 ✭✭✭00112984


    The poor girl must have been at her wits' end to react like that.

    OP, you said that there's another bathroom but you don't know how the shower in there works so I can only presume you take up the main bathroom for 20 to 40 minutes each day? In shared accommodation, that's ridiculous and very selfish.

    I can only imagine the additional cost associated with heating all that extra water you use. Uneconomicaly and very environmentally unfriendly.

    It stands to reason that someone will have to use the bathroom for some reason (maybe getting something they have stored in there) in the space of 40 minutes and, by acting the way you did in ignoring her, you were baiting the girl for a reaction and are now crying victim when you got it.


  • #26
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    DarkJager wrote: »
    It shouldn't matter what length of time he's in there for, so long as its not deliberate abuse just to piss off the housemate.
    It comes across like it is.


  • #27
    Chinafoot
    Closed Accounts Posts: 9,894 ✭✭✭Chinafoot


    Yes she handled it badly but seriously, I would hate to live with someone that treated shared facilities like that. If you want to shower for 40 minutes get your own bathroom. You live with other people and need to consider their needs also.
    DarkJager wrote:
    He is paying rent like everyone else, so he is entitled to use the facilities of the house as he wants - not when some immature drama queen decides she wants to use the bathroom.

    What a load of crap. Paying rent doesn't entitle you to tie up the facilities that the other people paying rent need to use. If someone has a job interview and tells you they need to use the bathroom after they had tried to discuss the issue with you, you do the decent thing and get out of the bathroom.

    OP, either learn to consider the needs and rights of your flatmates or live alone because you won't last long sharing with that attitude.


  • #28
    YDMHSSB
    Closed Accounts Posts: 237 ✭✭YDMHSSB


    40 mins is crazy and selfish, even 20 mins is ridiculous. if this has been going on for months, then its no wonder the poor girl is going silly. the average time a man should spend in the shower is 5-10 mins. i live in a house with 5 people, and all of us get our showers done in 30 mins, its not that hard and its outta courtesy for your fellow housemates.

    not having a go, but from your post,you sound like a right d*ck to be honest. im 100% siding with the girl on this one, youd have your head kicked in if you lived in my house or any of me mates house to be honest!!!!!!


  • #29
    themadchef
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,813 ✭✭✭themadchef


    Sounds to me like she snapped.

    In fairness you're both acting like kids. You cant agree with someone you're sharing a simple thing like living accomodation.

    Rota system, or stick a timer on the door, 20 mins "ding ding ding" times up. Agree to it, and stick to it. Save the serious scrubbing till you have lots of time to yourself in the house.

    She was out of order, but in fairness so are you.


  • #30
    Eric_85
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭Eric_85


    Alanstrainor wrote: »
    That is insane! Report that childish woman. She has no right to tell you what to do. And breaking into the bathroom while you're having a shower is, well, well out of order. Stand up for yourself, and dont let this bully carry on like this.

    I do think this can carry on like this and most probably will. In the case that she will be going to shower I suppose she might as well not get embarassed to get mad on a completely unreasonable grounds like she already did. I can of couse try to find out whether the report to the landlord shall somehow resolve the issue.
    DarkJager wrote: »
    That does not and should not make any difference at all. He is paying rent like everyone else, so he is entitled to use the facilities of the house as he wants - not when some immature drama queen decides she wants to use the bathroom.


    Absolutely report her to the landlord, and give her an ultimatum of removing this jumped up freak from the house or you will leave yourself. You do not have to put up with that sort of abuse at all, and I'm sure if it was you that forced your way in the gardai would have been up very shortly after.

    Hang her out to dry.

    In order to avoid the reasonable question of why did I not inform the landlord about the behaviour of the tenant in case of any further consequences arise I might want to talk to her the next time I see her. I suppose a sudden call three days after shall be a little bit awkward...
    IRISH RAIL wrote: »
    find yourself another place and tell the landlady exatly why you are leaving
    that girl is a nutter
    and it wouldnt suprise me if she made up a story about you breaking in to get attention.

    I can try this in the longer run. I was living in the place for two and a half years now. Doing so is the most cautious way to treat this incident.


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  • #31
    Bottle_of_Smoke
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,770 ✭✭✭Bottle_of_Smoke


    I'd have serious issue living with someone taking 40min showers. Cop yourself on.


  • #32
    missbaker
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 123 ✭✭missbaker


    in all fairness a 20 - 40 minute shower is abit OTT . .you know if you were in OZ youd be limited to 3- 5 min showers. U should be trying to save the worlds resources not letting it run down the drain


  • #33
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    YDMHSSB wrote: »

    not having a go, but from your post,you sound like a right d*ck to be honest. im 100% siding with the girl on this one, youd have your head kicked in if you lived in my house or any of me mates house to be honest!!!!!!

    Noticing a bit of Northside/Southside tension here:D

    Eric_85: Location: South Dublin

    YDMHSSB : Location: northside, work in southside : (


  • #34
    Mr. Frost
    Closed Accounts Posts: 726 ✭✭✭Mr. Frost


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I do think this can carry on like this and most probably will. In the case that she will be going to shower I suppose she might as well not get embarassed to get mad on a completely unreasonable grounds like she already did. I can of couse try to find out whether the report to the landlord shall somehow resolve the issue.



    In order to avoid the reasonable question of why did I not inform the landlord about the behaviour of the tenant in case of any further consequences arise I might want to talk to her the next time I see her. I suppose a sudden call three days after shall be a little bit awkward...



    I can try this in the longer run. I was living in the place for two and a half years now. Doing so is the most cautious way to treat this incident.

    Really trying hard to bite my lip here.


  • #35
    wylo
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,214 ✭✭✭wylo


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I do think this can carry on like this and most probably will. In the case that she will be going to shower I suppose she might as well not get embarassed to get mad on a completely unreasonable grounds like she already did. I can of couse try to find out whether the report to the landlord shall somehow resolve the issue.



    In order to avoid the reasonable question of why did I not inform the landlord about the behaviour of the tenant in case of any further consequences arise I might want to talk to her the next time I see her. I suppose a sudden call three days after shall be a little bit awkward...



    I can try this in the longer run. I was living in the place for two and a half years now. Doing so is the most cautious way to treat this incident.
    Lol, are you having a laugh or do people like you actually exist in real life


  • #36
    amcalester
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,121 ✭✭✭amcalester


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I do think this can carry on like this and most probably will. In the case that she will be going to shower I suppose she might as well not get embarassed to get mad on a completely unreasonable grounds like she already did. I can of couse try to find out whether the report to the landlord shall somehow resolve the issue.



    In order to avoid the reasonable question of why did I not inform the landlord about the behaviour of the tenant in case of any further consequences arise I might want to talk to her the next time I see her. I suppose a sudden call three days after shall be a little bit awkward...



    I can try this in the longer run. I was living in the place for two and a half years now. Doing so is the most cautious way to treat this incident.


    did you read the other posts? 40 minutes is ridiculous.


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  • #37
    Alicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,264 ✭✭✭✭Alicat


    40 minutes is way too long to be spending in the shower when there are other people in the house to consider.

    You are wasting water and electricity as it is, not paying any extra for it, and then expect the other housemates to turn on the heating just to have a 5 minute shower in the other bathroom? While you do God-knows-what in the shower for nearly 3/4 of an hour? :confused:

    If you want to share accommodation you have to be prepared to consider the needs of your housemates. You may be paying rent but that does not entitle you to do whatever you want, particularly if it affects your housemates, who are also paying rent in case you'd forgotten! If that's the kind of lifestyle you want, then you need to get your own place because I know very few people who would put up with that.

    I'm surprised your housemate hasn't already approached the landlord about you. The girl went off the handle a bit admittedly but to be honest I would too. You sound totally unapproachable and unwillingly to have an adult conversation with your housemate(s) to work out some sort of solution.

    I have absolutely no sympathy for you at all.


  • #38
    Eric_85
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭Eric_85


    I may agree that having a shower 20 to 40 minutes is anything but short and quick. To explain myself on this as far as I haven't previously had time to read that the need actually arised I can say that yes this is the activity I mostly enjoy! I am in no way trying to put a blame on myself for that. I can understand the point of view from which being different from the most in this feature would be in fairness completely unconventional!

    There are 8 other people living in the house in 7 rooms. During 2 and a half years I have had once a little chat with one other tennant at the time I was taking a bath which had been dismantled some few months ago. But really I would not want to sacrifice this little pleasure of mine to extent that I may even rent a membership in the facility that will allow me to exercise it as far as paying more for the electricity bill will not do any good to any other tennant... Though quite frankly I do not view myself any difficulty from my own side in the case that everybody would occupy the shower for this time cutting me for two hours off it. I would in this case either get up earlier or wash in the evenings. I would not bring the question which is against the deliberate comfort of other tennants up. I would not get pissed off because this rarely really brings any good results in life unless there are people eager to tolerate it.


  • #39
    Tusky
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 17,092 ✭✭✭✭Tusky


    If I lived with you, I would have broken into the shower, dragged you out and beaten you with a bar of soap in a sock. What do you think you are doing spending up to 40 minutes in the shower when other people need to get ready for work ? Its a shared apartment, have some bloody consideration.

    Exactly what are you doing in the shower for 40 minutes anyway ? Takes me 5 minutes to wash myself properly..and if I'm feeling lazy I might stay in for 10 minutes, but 40 is crazy.

    If all 8 of the tenants in your apartment had a 40 minute shower each day, it would take 5 and a half hours. THAT is why its unacceptable.


  • #40
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I may agree that having a shower 20 to 40 minutes is anything but short and quick. To explain myself on this as far as I haven't previously had time to read that the need actually arised I can say that yes this is the activity I mostly enjoy! I am in no way trying to put a blame on myself for that. I can understand the point of view from which being different from the most in this feature would be in fairness completely unconventional!

    There are 8 other people living in the house in 7 rooms. During 2 and a half years I have had once a little chat with one other tennant at the time I was taking a bath which had been dismantled some few months ago. But really I would not want to sacrifice this little pleasure of mine to extent that I may even rent a membership in the facility that will allow me to excersise it as far as paying more for the electricity bill will not to any good to anybody...
    huh?


  • #41
    Alicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,264 ✭✭✭✭Alicat


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I may agree that having a shower 20 to 40 minutes is anything but short and quick. To explain myself on this as far as I haven't previously had time to read that the need actually arised I can say that yes this is the activity I mostly enjoy! I am in no way trying to put a blame on myself for that. I can understand the point of view from which being different from the most in this feature would be in fairness completely unconventional!

    There are 8 other people living in the house in 7 rooms. During 2 and a half years I have had once a little chat with one other tennant at the time I was taking a bath which had been dismantled some few months ago. But really I would not want to sacrifice this little pleasure of mine to extent that I may even rent a membership in the facility that will allow me to excersise it as far as paying more for the electricity bill will not to any good to anybody...

    8 people in the one house and you think you have the luxury of spending that long in the shower? :eek:

    Paying more money towards the electricity is the least you could do in my opinion. A better option for everybody would be that you get your own place. It's obviously not working for you or anyone else.


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  • #42
    castie
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    Please oh please tell me english is not your first language.

    And really unless your beating one off and particularly like that shower feel, theres no reason for 40 mins.


  • #43
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I understand where the OP is coming from enjoying long showers.

    However, it is completely selfish to take up the mornings in a household of 7 (or was it 8?) taking a 20 -40 minute shower.

    She was bang out of order to break into the bathroom; however, you were out of order not listening to her concerns.

    How about compromise? Take your shower before going to bed a night. That way you can enjoy it and relax, and not disturb others. It's what I do. If you don't feel "fresh" in the morning you can take a quick 5 minutes splash and dash in rota with everyone else

    Seriously though, apologise to the girl for not hearing her out, telling her your new plan (which hopefully, for the sake of your housemates, you'll decide to take on). Then tell her, however, what she did was unacceptable and you will report her to the landlord next time


  • #44
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    40 minutes!!!

    I know what you're doing in there! ...sinner.

    Seriously, most women I know easily take 45 minutes to an hour getting ready for work or a night out in the bathroom... what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

    It all depends how many people are sharing this bathroom really. Me and my flat mate have a two bedroom with one bathroom, albeit our hot water is always on via one of these modern systems. It wouldn't bother me if he spent 40 minutes in the bathroom... I guess it would matter the time of day, if he wanted to spend 40 minutes in there when I need to get ready for work that'd be a different thing. If there were four of us in the flat, it would be much different.

    I think this is more about having the right flat mate, not about shower time.


  • #45
    vorbis
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,525 ✭✭✭vorbis


    Eh, are people not reading his posts deliberately? He stated that he takes showers in the AFTERNOON so as not to put out other people. Most people including myself are never in the house during the afternoon. If one of my room mates was taking a 40 minutes show at 1 in the afternoon I'd think it was a bit odd but wouldn't be bothered by it.

    If the other girl really wanted to have a shower she could have turned on the heating and had one.


  • #46
    Eric_85
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭Eric_85


    castie wrote: »
    Please oh please tell me english is not your first language.

    And really unless your beating one off and particularly like that shower feel, theres no reason for 40 mins.

    It isn't. I am not trying to be funny.


  • #47
    MagicMarker
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 32,865 ✭✭✭✭MagicMarker


    vorbis wrote: »
    Eh, are people not reading his posts deliberately? He stated that he takes showers in the AFTERNOON so as not to put out other people. Most people including myself are never in the house during the afternoon. If one of my room mates was taking a 40 minutes show at 1 in the afternoon I'd think it was a bit odd but wouldn't be bothered by it.

    If the other girl really wanted to have a shower she could have turned on the heating and had one.
    He said he usually does it in the after noon OR evening, and has done it in the morning in the past. So, sounds to me that he does it anytime.
    Eric_85 wrote: »
    Time ago this could have been and at least once was early in the morning crossing her schedule to the extent of twenty minutes apparently. But nowadays this usually happens later during the day or in the late evenings due to recent changes in my working hours


  • #48
    Alicat
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,264 ✭✭✭✭Alicat


    vorbis wrote: »
    Eh, are people not reading his posts deliberately? He stated that he takes showers in the AFTERNOON so as not to put out other people. Most people including myself are never in the house during the afternoon. If one of my room mates was taking a 40 minutes show at 1 in the afternoon I'd think it was a bit odd but wouldn't be bothered by it.

    If the other girl really wanted to have a shower she could have turned on the heating and had one.

    I'd say the only reason he has it in the afternoon is that the other housemates would simply not put up with him doing it in the morning! It would be bad enough getting eight people showered and all with two bathrooms every morning but add his 40 minute charade to the mix and it's a nightmare! And it only seems to have changed because his work hours changed, so not a whole lot to do with considering other people!

    And the other housemate having to turn on the heat for a 5 minute shower is such an unbelieveable waste. 40 minutes is simply too long with that many other people to consider, particularly when the girl told him that she needed the bathroom and he ignored her! His words!


  • #49
    00112984
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,600 ✭✭✭00112984


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    There are 8 other people living in the house

    If all of your other housemates decided their "one little luxury" was a 40 minute shower each day, the house would be running hot water for over 5 hours per DAY! That's ridiculous! Have you any idea how long it takes to heat 5 hours worth of water and at what cost?! To do it on an immersion would be bad enough but, if it's an electric shower, it'd probably eat up one whole tenant's rent for the month!

    If all of the other 7 were as selfish as you in doing that, you'd be the first one to complain about the increase in your electric bill.


  • #50
    Eric_85
    Closed Accounts Posts: 30 ✭Eric_85


    vorbis wrote: »
    Eh, are people not reading his posts deliberately? He stated that he takes showers in the AFTERNOON so as not to put out other people. Most people including myself are never in the house during the afternoon. If one of my room mates was taking a 40 minutes show at 1 in the afternoon I'd think it was a bit odd but wouldn't be bothered by it.

    If the other girl really wanted to have a shower she could have turned on the heating and had one.

    In fact she could not. The landlady had the idea that all the tennants are using heating excessively so she had simply banned the access to the heating control with a metallic box which is locked. It gets cold sometimes as the schedule she entered is limited to the mornings and evenings. No one including the girl was showing the wish to talk to her about it. Instead the sweaters and coats are on in the kitchen. She altered a schedule recently presumably for the third turning on for an hour or so somewhere not far from afternoon.

    No I didn't really try not to put other people off as it was happening. I didn't think I was putting anyone off anyway. Everybody including me are doing their own business and sit in their rooms whenever somebody uses the bathroom. No one except her has yet waited under the door. There are other things the time is to be used for.


  • #51
    00112984
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,600 ✭✭✭00112984


    Eric_85 wrote: »
    The landlady had the idea that all the tennants are using heating excessively so she had simply banned the access to the heating control with a metallic box which is locked. It gets cold sometimes as the schedule she entered is limited to the mornings and evenings.

    If the shower in the bathroom you use is run from the heating, that will explain why the heating bill is excessive.
    Eric_85 wrote: »
    I didn't think I was putting anyone off anyway.

    She TOLD you it was a problem and you IGNORED her until she was so annoyed she broke down the door in a temper.


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