Not sure if friend has a thing for me?

LegacyUser · 07-11-2010 02:37AM #1

hello there. I'm a woman who is married but hubby works abroad.

Anyway to cut long story short, myself &hubby are in a sports club together, and are v good friends with about 10 people from the club. We would all often go out together at wkends etc.

Anyway, hubby has been workin abroad for a year and a half, and our friends have all looked after me really well.

But i'm kinda confused on one thing- der is one couple who have been going out bout 7 years. The guy is kinda cute, and we have alot in common. Thing is the couple dont tend to drink much, but when d guy gets a few drinks into him, his cheeky side comes out, and you just get the feeling, he's mad to go out on a good ould session. But he's always getting disapproving looks/comments from the missus.

Also he tends to get rather flirty, like he makes loads of real direct eye contact, playfully touches your arm or leg etc, even when she's there.

Not that I would do anything on my hubby as I love him to bits, but I have this wierd "feeling" about this guy. And I cant figure out if he's just a natually flirty sort of guy or if its just with me?

Sorry for the rambling, but we were all out tonight in a club and I got the same impressions again..... So dont know what to think....

I'm prob reading way to much into the situation, so feel free to tell me im an idiot.

S23 · 07-11-2010 12:51PM

If you have no inention of doing anything about it and the worst this person could be qualified as is 'natuarlly flirty' then I don't see what difference it makes.

I am a friend · 07-11-2010 04:43PM

Would say he is just generally flirty but is obviously under the thumb and is only 'brave' enough to act normally (to him) when he has a few drinks on him...

Dont think about it again and just enjoy their company when you are out.

silkworm53 · 07-11-2010 09:40PM

It's perfectly normal to feel attracted to other people.
Everybody does at one time or another.
A ring doesn't turn off our attraction switches.
You just have to put it out of your mind and if the worst comes to the worst keep a distance from this man if you find yourself falling for him.
Don't make it too much of a problem or will become a problem.
Best of luck.

cafecolour · 07-11-2010 10:52PM

does_he/doesnt_he? wrote: »

Also he tends to get rather flirty, like he makes loads of real direct eye contact, playfully touches your arm or leg etc, even when she's there.

Not that I would do anything on my hubby as I love him to bits, but I have this wierd "feeling" about this guy. And I cant figure out if he's just a natually flirty sort of guy or if its just with me?

Well, watch him with other people and see if he's 'flirty' with them. That will tell you. If he does it with his girlfriend there, though, that would tend to lead towards thinking that he's just being naturally flirty.

A lot of folks are, especially with a few drinks. Personally, I think the world would be more fun if everyone flirted a bit more

08-11-2010 02:08PM

S23 wrote: »

If you have no inention of doing anything about it and the worst this person could be qualified as is 'natuarlly flirty' then I don't see what difference it makes.

+1

OP, unless you're actually considering an affair, what relevance does it have? Are you just looking for an ego boost? Why?

Not sure if friend has a thing for me?

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