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Does he still love me??

  • 26-03-2011 9:08pm
    #1
    Fairytale
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 4 ✭


    Hi

    This is my first time posting something in a forum, so I hope I'm doing this right!

    I was hoping I could get some advice. I've been with my Boyfriend for almost 10 years. We bought a house together a couple of years ago and things have been good. We're both 30.
    Here's the issue, I want to get engaged.
    All our friends and relations are getting engaged and married and having kids, and while I'm not ready for the kids just yet, I dont think it's unreasonable to expect this at this stage. I know it might sound like I want this cos everyone else has it, but it's really not the case. Seeing friends make this commitment makes me realise how important it is for me. When we're at weddings or we hear of someone else getting engaged, his reply to me is usually - oh that'll be us soon! - But it never is. I'm beginning to think that it's never going to happen and that this is the way my life is going to be forever. Don't get me wrong, I'm not one of these girls that thinks, having the ring on my finger will make life perfect and it'll be roses all the way, but I'm not happy to stay the girlfriend forever. Am I being unfair to ask for this commitment??

    I'm just not sure where we are going?

    Can anyone give me any advice?
    Thanks x


Comments

  • #2
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    He's obviously committed to you and is going to end up marrying you. Just because your mates are currently at it and the pressure is on, doesn't mean he should get down on his knee immediately after, so you're not left out.

    My only advice would be not to push it, or you'll push him away.


  • #3
    Mighty_Mouse
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,882 ✭✭✭Mighty_Mouse


    Your together 10years. Your now aged 30.
    How could you not know where you stand regards marriage?
    Have ye never properly discussed it?


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