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Feeling completely lost and alone.

  • 06-11-2011 09:24PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    Just to give some background, I am 33 years of age, single, have a good career in which I tend to excel whenever I work, don't ask me why! However, my personal life is an utter shambles at the moment and has really hit rock bottom over the last few weeks. I am extremely unhappy and don't know what to do.

    A few weeks ago, the area I lived in was caught up in the flooding. My car was written off and the level of damage in the area was so bad that I have to move out and back in with my parents for a week or so. On moving back into the apartment complex again, one of the apartments near mine caught fire and we had to move out again. As my lease is nearing its end and the fact that I don't feel safe staying in the complex after an electrical fire, I decided to move out most of my stuff but due to a mix of family pressure and a lack of any decent 6 month leases, I have moved into a new house owned by an relation of mine located within spitting distance of my parents. Unfortunately, I am not comfortable with the move, due to family politics but I can't see another housing option for the moment, which suits my needs.

    The happenings above have left me feeling completely dejected with life. I just don't know what to do. It has also really nailed home the fact that I have nobody in my life in a relationship sense, to turn to or work with.

    I am supposed to go away this coming week for a few days but am not the type to go away and forget about my woes here. Going to try and cancel it tomorrow.

    Sorry, the above might not make much sense but it is how I feel at the moment.


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  • #2
    qwertytlk
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 747 ✭✭✭qwertytlk


    I take it your not in a relationship as you havent mentioned one so what about friends? Have you anyone to socialse with? Why nto try to join a club, gym or meet with friends from work? It will probably make a huge difference to you if you could get out and blow off some steam.


  • #3
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    I do have friends but they are all in the long term relationship, married and having their first child bracket. Going out with them isn't really an option. We tend to meet up now and again. I do go to the gym but it isn't really the place for conversation, I find. People just go about their own business training.


  • #4
    dellas1979
    Closed Accounts Posts: 4,128 ✭✭✭dellas1979


    If I was you, I wouldnt cancel anything - as they say "drive through it".

    Unfortunately, there will always be loads of issues/things going our lives, but we just need to deal with them as best we can. I can completely understand where you are coming from (being a singleton also) and it can be very daunting dealing and doing things on your own, especially when things go wrong. I actually feel proud of myself for getting through tough times on my own - shows what stuff Im made of, and if/when I do meet someone, I will know alot more about myself than more or less using someone else to get me through it.

    I just came back from a well deserved weekend away (and yep I've me own issues like everyone else :-)). I drove to airport and caught a flight and over there met up with some friends and the reaction from some people is hilarious. 3/4s are like jeees wish I could just up and do that. The other 1/4 are astonished I managed, on my own, to drive to the airport and catch a flight.

    So, in effect, stop worrying so much, and GO enjoy yourself!


  • #5
    Beruthiel
    Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,361 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    LostAndAlone wrote: »
    I am not comfortable with the move, due to family politics but I can't see another housing option for the moment, which suits my needs.

    OP, you're coming across as a glass half empty kind of person. Snap out of that.
    Keep looking for a new place to live and don't give up until you find it!
    I am supposed to go away this coming week for a few days but am not the type to go away and forget about my woes here.

    Then change the 'type' of person you are.
    And yes, you can actually change something about yourself if you don't like it.
    It just requires effort.
    Cancelling your holiday is just silliness. If anything, you need it more than ever.
    Go away and forget about your 'woes' for a few days.
    Get some perspective.
    Things might not be going great for you right now, but remind yourself that they could be a whole lot worse.
    While you have your health nothing is insurmountable!


  • #6
    Miss Fluff
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,673 ✭✭✭Miss Fluff


    Cancelling your holiday is just another "woe" to add to the existing list.

    Why don't you use the opportunity of a few days' away to take stock, draw breath and indulge in some R & R to help you de-stress?


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  • #7
    Mighty_Mouse
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,882 ✭✭✭Mighty_Mouse


    However, my personal life is an utter shambles at the moment and has really hit rock bottom over the last few weeks. I am extremely unhappy and don't know what to do.

    Your material possesions got wrecked?

    Losing a car & a house in one week is rough but falls into the "**** happens"..category.

    It seems your nice job, nice car, nice home were protecting you from the fact that you're unhappy with being single? Forget about the crap lost & focus on how to fix this.


  • #8
    snafuk35
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 833 ✭✭✭snafuk35


    LostAndAlone wrote: »
    Just to give some background, I am 33 years of age, single, have a good career in which I tend to excel whenever I work, don't ask me why! However, my personal life is an utter shambles at the moment and has really hit rock bottom over the last few weeks. I am extremely unhappy and don't know what to do.

    A few weeks ago, the area I lived in was caught up in the flooding. My car was written off and the level of damage in the area was so bad that I have to move out and back in with my parents for a week or so. On moving back into the apartment complex again, one of the apartments near mine caught fire and we had to move out again. As my lease is nearing its end and the fact that I don't feel safe staying in the complex after an electrical fire, I decided to move out most of my stuff but due to a mix of family pressure and a lack of any decent 6 month leases, I have moved into a new house owned by an relation of mine located within spitting distance of my parents. Unfortunately, I am not comfortable with the move, due to family politics but I can't see another housing option for the moment, which suits my needs.

    The happenings above have left me feeling completely dejected with life. I just don't know what to do. It has also really nailed home the fact that I have nobody in my life in a relationship sense, to turn to or work with.

    I am supposed to go away this coming week for a few days but am not the type to go away and forget about my woes here. Going to try and cancel it tomorrow.

    Sorry, the above might not make much sense but it is how I feel at the moment.

    Ok its crap but at least you aren't in some hellhole in Africa starving to death with goons with guns running around shooting each other. You'll just have to pick yourself up, stop feeling sorry for yourself and crack on. Thank God you weren't drowned like rat like that poor Filipino woman who got trapped in a basement flat or fried alive in an apartment fire like that bloke up near Croke Park the other day. Things could be a lot lot worse.


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