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Lonely....want to get back into life

  • 05-12-2012 11:40AM
    #1
    lmahoney79
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,288 ✭✭✭


    Hi, over the past year due to illness and having to stay indoors as well as having a one year old I have basically withdrawn into myself. Have no friends left and my life just revolves around looking after my son. I really need to try and get my life back on track. I envy hearing about others going out to functions and parties or even just having friends around to the house. I only have my partner and we dont even go out anymore because he works long hours and we need someone to mind our boy.
    What can I do to get some kind of life back. I feel I am only existing to look after my boy and no other reason. Getting me down.


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  • #2
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    When you say you have no friends left, have you actually fallen out with everyone or just drifted apart? Why don't you get back in touch with a couple of pals you were closest too and tell them you're ready to face the world again? If you have been ill etc I am sure they will understand and be only too happy to meet up.

    Also, maybe going to a Boards Beers might be an idea? Most of the forums have a meet-up so it might be a good opportunity to go and meet like-minded folk at one of those?

    EDIT: As it happens, there is a comedy gig this weekend!
    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=2056807816


  • #3
    lmahoney79
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,288 ✭✭✭lmahoney79


    I have just drifted away from friends I had before and have not really been in contact with them as they have gotten on with their own lives, I suppose the illness over the year is only part of it, I have just generally become withdrawn over the last couple of years so I h ave no one to blame but myself.
    Thanks for the tip on the Boards meet ups, cant make the one this weekend but maybe another time alright.


  • #4
    Merkin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,230 ✭✭✭Merkin


    Aww, well friendships take a little bit of work so how about making tentative steps to reaching out to a handful of people? Why don't you send an email or message them on Facebook? Just say that with Christmas coming you realized how much time has passed since you saw them last and that you'd love to meet up for a drink one evening if they are free? It's all about breaking the cycle of introversion you are currently in and a couple of quiet drinks would be a good way of reestablishing old connections and getting yourself out of the rut you're in hon.


  • #5
    skyfall2012
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 409 ✭✭skyfall2012


    I felt like you when my kids were babies, all I can say is it gets better.


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