Advertisement
If you have a new account but are having problems posting or verifying your account, please email us on hello@boards.ie for help. Thanks :)
Hello all! Please ensure that you are posting a new thread or question in the appropriate forum. The Feedback forum is overwhelmed with questions that are having to be moved elsewhere. If you need help to verify your account contact hello@boards.ie
Hi there,
There is an issue with role permissions that is being worked on at the moment.
If you are having trouble with access or permissions on regional forums please post here to get access: https://www.boards.ie/discussion/2058365403/you-do-not-have-permission-for-that#latest

i think i married the wrong woman

  • 13-04-2013 08:08PM
    #1
    lost in cork
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 133 ✭✭


    When i was 22 i had a girlfriend and everything was going well so we moved in together in a flat we rented,things were ticking along nicely till i met an ex girlfriend who persuaded me to ditch my gf ,i did this and then had a relationship with this girl but it soon went sour and finished ,i moved on and eventually married a woman who made me happy ,but as time moved on it has become clear to me that we are just friends no more than that,on top of this i have just become friends on facebook with the first girl i lived with and she looks stunning and after chatting with her she is still a great laugh ,think i made a big mistake years ago,has anyone else married the wrong woman


«13

Comments

  • #2
    maneno
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 267 ✭✭maneno


    Yes,are you drunk?


  • #3
    Praetorian Saighdiuir
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,968 ✭✭✭✭Praetorian Saighdiuir


    Calm down Ross.

    Why don't you hook up with the Facbook chick.


  • #4
    hyperborean
    Closed Accounts Posts: 655 ✭✭✭hyperborean


    lost in cork wrote: »
    When i was 22 i had a girlfriend and everything was going well so we moved in together in a flat we rented,things were ticking along nicely till i met an ex girlfriend who persuaded me to ditch my gf ,i did this and then had a relationship with this girl but it soon went sour and finished ,i moved on and eventually married a woman who made me happy ,but as time moved on it has become clear to me that we are just friends no more than that,on top of this i have just become friends on facebook with the first girl i lived with and she looks stunning and after chatting with her she is still a great laugh ,think i made a big mistake years ago,has anyone else married the wrong woman

    Your willy is too small


  • #5
    Rayne Wooney
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,136 ✭✭✭✭Rayne Wooney


    Was the second one a lesbian and are you Ross from Friends?


  • #6
    galwayrush
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,815 ✭✭✭✭galwayrush


    This being a public forum and all that...:D

    Of course not, i married the best person in the world.:)


  • Advertisement
  • #7
    humbert
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,238 ✭✭✭humbert


    If you're not planing to get a divorce I'd question the wisdom of befriending the ex.

    Not married and tales like that scare the bejesus out of me.


  • #8
    To Alcohol
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 526 ✭✭✭To Alcohol


    Never Mind your username "lost in cork". I think your lost full stop.


  • #9
    blindsider
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,054 ✭✭✭blindsider


    Faraway hills are greener......?


  • #10
    lost in cork
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 133 ✭✭lost in cork


    Praetorian Saighdiuir wrote: »
    Calm down Ross.

    Why don't you hook up with the Facbook chick.
    im in ireland shes in england plus i now have kids to complicate the situation


  • #11
    Fr_Dougal
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 9,166 ✭✭✭Fr_Dougal


    blindsider wrote: »
    Faraway hills are greener......?

    Or are they just small?


  • Advertisement
  • #12
    Royal Legend
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,664 ✭✭✭Royal Legend


    lost in cork wrote: »
    im in ireland shes in england plus i now have kids to complicate the situation

    kids wont complicate it if you leave them at home when you are visiting your ex.


  • #13
    kinkygirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 218 ✭✭kinkygirl


    lost in cork wrote: »
    When i was 22 i had a girlfriend and everything was going well so we moved in together in a flat we rented,things were ticking along nicely till i met an ex girlfriend who persuaded me to ditch my gf ,i did this and then had a relationship with this girl but it soon went sour and finished ,i moved on and eventually married a woman who made me happy ,but as time moved on it has become clear to me that we are just friends no more than that,on top of this i have just become friends on facebook with the first girl i lived with and she looks stunning and after chatting with her she is still a great laugh ,think i made a big mistake years ago,has anyone else married the wrong woman

    Charming, I just hope your original (now stunning) girlfriend tells you to sling your hook.


  • #14
    hullaballoo
    Administrators, Entertainment Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 18,782 Admin ✭✭✭✭✭hullaballoo


    If you don't get with the hot one, you'll have to live with the regret for the rest of your life.

    If you get with the hot one, you'll have to live with the shame and regret and mortal terror of your WIFE finding out for the rest of your life.

    You're welcome.


  • #15
    Custardpi
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,807 ✭✭✭Custardpi


    Having considered your situation for a good couple of minutes I reckon this dilemma is easily solved. Just suggest to your wife that you spice up your sex life with a threesome, eventually leading onto a full menage á trois. That way you get to keep your family unit intact & get to cop off with your old flame. It might sound crazy but knowing your wife as well as I do I reckon she'd totally go for it.


  • #16
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 26,052 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    lost in cork wrote: »
    im in ireland shes in england plus i now have kids to complicate the situation


    Then you quit chatting up the ex and put everything you have into fixing your marriage for the sake of your kids. They deserve parents who put a decent shot into sticking together and working things out. Your wife deserves someone who isn't chasing after lost ex's before every avenue of rescue is explored.

    If you put the work in and you're still miserable, then leave for yourself, not for some relationship that you're looking at through hindsights rose-tinted glasses.


  • #17
    pablomakaveli
    Closed Accounts Posts: 7,752 ✭✭✭pablomakaveli


    OP your just having whats called a "mid life crisis". Just buy yourself a Porsche you cant afford and everything will be alright again.


  • #18
    El Guapo!
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,438 ✭✭✭✭El Guapo!


    Dude you're in the wrong forum to get proper advice. Try the Personal Issues section on Boards. I'm on the phone now so can't link to it but I'm sure a nice person will give you a link.
    Best of luck.


  • #19
    mattjack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,389 ✭✭✭mattjack


    lost in cork wrote: »
    im in ireland shes in england plus i now have kids to complicate the situation

    Whoa , you're in AH , you need to have a look around at some of the other posts and threads in AH , before you continue.

    On a more serious note , if any one's out and about in Dublin and see's my wife (blonde , in a blue dress ) can you ask her where she left the car.


  • #20
    hyperborean
    Closed Accounts Posts: 655 ✭✭✭hyperborean


    El Guapo! wrote: »
    Dude you're in the wrong forum to get proper advice. Try the Personal Issues section on Boards. I'm on the phone now so can't link to it but I'm sure a nice person will give you a link.
    Best of luck.

    Let me help

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/forumdisplay.php?f=22


  • #21
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 0 ✭ [Deleted User]


    You reap what you sow.

    Sit down, shut up & wait till your kids grow up.

    (Alternatively post this in Soc > Personal Issues, where there'll be more serious, sensitive & better informed answers. After Hours is more for p*ss-taking than advice.)


  • Advertisement
  • #22
    mr_edge_to_you
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,210 ✭✭✭mr_edge_to_you


    lost in cork wrote: »
    i now have kids to complicate the situation

    Pesky little kids....ruining all the fun

    Anyway, why don't ya get rid of the kids? No more complications. Sell them on Donedeal.


  • #23
    kneemos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,696 ✭✭✭✭kneemos


    Don't know about you but I think your wife married the wrong man.


  • #24
    Three Seasons
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 548 ✭✭✭Three Seasons


    OP you need to stay with your wife and accept your miserable existence and sexual frustration. Cheer up though, eventually you will die and your suffering will be over.


  • #25
    snollup
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,464 ✭✭✭snollup


    Hope for your sake Mrs lost in cork doesn't read this.

    Hope for our sake she does.


  • #26
    lost in cork
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 133 ✭✭lost in cork


    Three Seasons wrote: »
    OP you need to stay with your wife and accept your miserable existence and sexual frustration. Cheer up though, eventually you will die and your suffering will be over.
    where did it say i had a miserable existence and that i was sexually frustrated ,fool


  • #27
    DanWall
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 509 ✭✭✭DanWall


    Matjack: your car is at the airport


  • #28
    pragmatic1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,573 ✭✭✭pragmatic1


    Well since you now have kids, you're desires have to take a backseat. Life doesn't turn out the way we'd like a lot of the time.


  • #29
    cuana
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 304 ✭✭cuana


    lost in cork wrote: »
    When i was 22 i had a girlfriend and everything was going well so we moved in together in a flat we rented,things were ticking along nicely till i met an ex girlfriend who persuaded me to ditch my gf ,i did this and then had a relationship with this girl but it soon went sour and finished ,i moved on and eventually married a woman who made me happy ,but as time moved on it has become clear to me that we are just friends no more than that,on top of this i have just become friends on facebook with the first girl i lived with and she looks stunning and after chatting with her she is still a great laugh ,think i made a big mistake years ago,has anyone else married the wrong woman

    Bloody Drama!! This is Sh!te, "the wrong woman" please you were obviously happy enough to marry her! with time and on your reflection you aren't happy now well grow a pair either work on the relationship or move on!

    lusting after some chick you knew years ago please.... its just opened up your eyes to the fact your unhappy


  • #30
    martic
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 515 ✭✭✭martic


    Wait until the next time your wife mops the kitchen floor, walk up to her and kiss her passionately and tell her how much you love her then walk away slip on the wet floor and pretend to bang your head off the nearest press.
    When you come around act like she is a complete stranger that you have never met before and tell her you better go as you don't want to miss your flight back home to England.
    Fly over to England and meet the other girl, do all the dirty stuff until your fed up with her and then one day act like you have got your memory back and go back home to your wife. Hopefully she will still remember the passionate kiss you gave her before your accident and welcome you back with open arms and a dry floor.


  • Advertisement
  • #31
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    She persuaded you to ditch the girl, move in together, get married and have kids?? Are you actually for real???


  • #32
    Todd Gack
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 551 ✭✭✭Todd Gack


    lost in cork wrote: »
    im in ireland shes in england plus i now have kids to complicate the situation

    Easy, leave the wife and kids and move to England...everyone's a winner (well apart from your wife and kids)


  • #33
    Bipolar Joe
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,443 ✭✭✭Bipolar Joe


    Jesus, the fucking vitriol in here is astonishing.

    OP, you could just be bored in your relationship. People fall out of love, it happens, but if you loved her when you got married, maybe it can happen again. I can tell you, though, you'll regret sleeping with someone else.

    What I really think is happening here is this chick is the one that got away, because to be honest you were pretty dim and dumped her for another chick, and when that went south it just reinforced in your mind that you'd made a mistake. You didn't let go. So either work real hard on what you have now, or leave. I'd say work on it, because a marriage and kids isn't for nothing.


  • #34
    Mariasofia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,887 ✭✭✭Mariasofia


    No the wife came after the woman who "persuaded" him to ditch ex. Come on now keep up:-)


  • #35
    lost in cork
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 133 ✭✭lost in cork


    Legs.Eleven wrote: »
    She persuaded you to ditch the girl, move in together, get married and have kids?? Are you actually for real???
    read it again ffs


  • #36
    MomijiHime
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 620 ✭✭✭MomijiHime


    I think you should break up with your wife. You're not being fair to her by staying with her while you consider cheating.
    If you still like your wife though, maybe consider forgetting about your ex and stay with your family.


  • Advertisement
  • #37
    lost in cork
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 133 ✭✭lost in cork


    MomijiHime wrote: »
    I think you should break up with your wife. You're not being fair to her by staying with her while you consider cheating.
    If you still like your wife though, maybe consider forgetting about your ex and stay with your family.
    not going to leave the wife as i say we are good friends and we have kids ,i was only wondering whether other people felt they had married the wrong person


  • #38
    NuckingFacker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,221 ✭✭✭NuckingFacker


    Lost in Cork, I'd say, from reading this, that your the first and only person ever to have seen an ex and gone hmmm???mmm??mm. Ever. Probably. Establish a strong picture of your ex in your mind and pretend your wifes her when ye make love. That's the sex bit sorted anyway. Another plus is, your wifes still a friend. Wait till she spots a sexy rich ex and starts resenting you. Then you'll really be fecked.


  • #39
    kneemos
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 20,696 ✭✭✭✭kneemos


    The kids don't seem to figure highly in the equation or are they just friends as well?


  • #40
    all_smilz
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 747 ✭✭✭all_smilz


    lost in cork wrote: »
    im in ireland shes in england plus i now have kids to complicate the situation

    what a wonderful father you are... nice to think of your children as the product of your foolish f_ckin around with peoples lives...


  • #41
    MomijiHime
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 620 ✭✭✭MomijiHime


    lost in cork wrote: »
    not going to leave the wife as i say we are good friends and we have kids ,i was only wondering whether other people felt they had married the wrong person

    Oh.. well I'm not married so I'm afraid I can't say


  • Advertisement
  • #42
    Mariasofia
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,887 ✭✭✭Mariasofia


    No never felt like i married the wrong person i adore him but im still human and can appreciate other men but would never act on it. Just because you're on a diet doesn't mean you can't look at the menu just don't order from it..iykwim

    oh yes the vinos going down well ;)


  • #43
    pipelaser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 583 ✭✭✭pipelaser


    lost in cork wrote: »
    When i was 22 i had a girlfriend and everything was going well so we moved in together in a flat we rented,things were ticking along nicely till i met an ex girlfriend who persuaded me to ditch my gf ,i did this and then had a relationship with this girl but it soon went sour and finished ,i moved on and eventually married a woman who made me happy ,but as time moved on it has become clear to me that we are just friends no more than that,on top of this i have just become friends on facebook with the first girl i lived with and she looks stunning and after chatting with her she is still a great laugh ,think i made a big mistake years ago,has anyone else married the wrong woman

    Im not trying to be crude here man but,
    Go and have a ****, Im serious


  • #44
    daisybelle2008
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭daisybelle2008


    lost in cork wrote: »
    not going to leave the wife as i say we are good friends and we have kids ,i was only wondering whether other people felt they had married the wrong person

    Yeah, so I got divorced, if its wrong for one its wrong for both


  • #45
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    lost in cork wrote: »
    read it again ffs


    There were 3 girls then? So the second girl convinced you to leave the first chick? How?


  • #46
    lost in cork
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 133 ✭✭lost in cork


    pipelaser wrote: »
    Im not trying to be crude here man but,
    Go and have a ****, Im serious
    about what?


  • #47
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    Really OP, if this is a serious issue for you, you shouldn't post here. You're asking for the piss to be ripped. I can see you're serious though so....



    ....people often portray a certain image of themselves via Facebook. It's very easy to post your best photos and you've time to consider saying the right things and nothing "real" comes into the equation to complicate matters and a whole multitude of human-ness can be hidden behind a screen. How can you be sure you'd have a spark with this woman face-to-face?

    Tbh, if you're not planning on leaving your wife, it's not fair to be in touch with the first woman. That's just my opinion - it's really not fair on your wife and kids.


  • #48
    af_thefragile
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,171 ✭✭✭af_thefragile


    pablomakaveli wrote: »
    OP your just having whats called a "mid life crisis". Just buy yourself a Porsche you cant afford and everything will be alright again.

    THIS!!

    A Porsche is exactly what you need to shift your worries OP!
    Here's a good one: http://www.carzone.ie/search/Porsche/911/911SC-02/201314214224357/advert?channel=CARS
    Its red so will bring you all the attention you want and it's a classic so will shift your focus from worrying about women towards worrying about maintaining your fancy Porsche!


  • #49
    lost in cork
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 133 ✭✭lost in cork


    Its nice to know that so many morally perfect people are on boards.ie,when we are looking for tds next time we wont have to look far,also its been an interesting observation how quick people are to judge a person through 1 paragraph ,i can imagine that 100% of those people are not as squeeky clean as they would let others to believe


  • #50
    Legs.Eleven
    Closed Accounts Posts: 5,987 ✭✭✭Legs.Eleven


    lost in cork wrote: »
    Its nice to know that so many morally perfect people are on boards.ie,when we are looking for tds next time we wont have to look far,also its been an interesting observation how quick people are to judge a person through 1 paragraph ,i can imagine that 100% of those people are not as squeeky clean as they would let others to believe


    What did you expect posting here? :confused:


  • #51
    lost in cork
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 133 ✭✭lost in cork


    Legs.Eleven wrote: »
    What did you expect posting here? :confused:
    i was just checking that the morals of far right Ireland were still intact


  • Advertisement
Advertisement