Were you ever a d*ck to someone?

whirlpool · 06-11-2013 6:22pm #1

There are times I think of in my past where I said something to someone that could be hurtful to them, and I crinnnnge. It was generally something I said or did out of nerves because of social awkwardness - and then regretted it ever since.

Is there any moment in your past where you were (accidentally) a d*ck to someone and cringe when you remember it?

Vito Corleone · 06-11-2013 6:26pm

Yeah, loads of times.

Funkfield · 06-11-2013 6:28pm

Vito Corleone wrote: »

Yeah, loads of times.

Apt username

Muise... · 06-11-2013 6:34pm

the only way to stop the cringing is to apologise.

bacon? · 06-11-2013 6:46pm

Yes, I was

MadsL · 06-11-2013 6:49pm

Step 8
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

0ph0rce0 · 06-11-2013 6:50pm

To the one girl i really only ever loved.

Acted like a dick, lost her for good.

Cant understand why either???

I'll never be the same again

minidazzler · 06-11-2013 6:53pm

Yeah, I have been, totally and completely and it was all my fault. Would apologise now, but 1. It would be an unwelcome intrustion and 2. I have no way to contact.

I've been a lesser dick too, but I get over that. One girl though, I was so horrible to that I think Karma is kicking my ass for it now.

marshbaboon · 06-11-2013 6:56pm

0ph0rce0 wrote: »

To the one girl i really only ever loved.

Acted like a dick, lost her for good.

Cant understand why either???

I'll never be the same again

Me too. Totally spazzed out when we broke up and started acting like a cock. Only 19 and no idea how to handle that kind of EMoTIONaL ****iNg RoLlerCoasTEr.

Never since and never again.

PizzamanIRL · 06-11-2013 6:56pm

Yes I was. That's all she wanted me for.

The One Who Knocks · 06-11-2013 6:59pm

0ph0rce0 wrote: »

To the one girl i really only ever loved.
lost her for good.

0ph0rce0 wrote: »

Cant understand why either???

Oh, wait..

0ph0rce0 wrote: »

Acted like a dick

There we go

lkionm · 06-11-2013 7:03pm

The One Who Knocks wrote: »

Oh, wait..

There we go

and the first dick of the thread goes to...

Prodgey · 06-11-2013 7:04pm

MadsL wrote: »

Step 8
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

What are the rest of the steps?

MadsL · 06-11-2013 7:06pm

Prodgey wrote: »

What are the rest of the steps?

Dunno I'm only on step 8...

Sorry about that

NuckingFacker · 06-11-2013 7:07pm

Accidently, no. Been a dick?. Oh yeah. I sadly have a high level of vitamin d. I'm working on it though and outbreaks are much rarer. My eldest lad inhereted the trait and from watching him in action, my own levels of dickishness have diminished greatly, mainly due to how cringemaking it looks. I reckon I'll die quite sound.

gugleguy · 06-11-2013 7:14pm

I did'nt have the guts to ask the Chinese waitress her Chinese name. Her email address still shows up on my gmail account, after all that time. The manager of the said establishment held the door for me the other day. She has long since left. Gugleguy u d1ck

Wacker The Attacker · 06-11-2013 7:20pm

I was also a dick in, on and up someone

Prodgey · 06-11-2013 7:21pm

MadsL wrote: »

Dunno I'm only on step 8...

Sorry about that

So what's 1-7?

Wacker The Attacker · 06-11-2013 7:21pm

gugleguy wrote: »

I did'nt have the guts to ask the Chinese waitress her Chinese name. Her email address still shows up on my gmail account, after all that time. The manager of the said establishment held the door for me the other day. She has long since left. Gugleguy u d1ck

Wise move.

You may have ended up on the menu.

pharmaton · 06-11-2013 7:22pm

its my natural state of eqilibrium

RayM · 06-11-2013 7:25pm

Last year, when my mum died, I'm pretty sure I blanked lots of very nice, well-meaning people. It's a bit of a blur, but I remember feeling completely overwhelmed by it all. The night before the funeral, the house was full of people chatting, drinking, reminiscing, laughing, eating vol-au-vents, etc - the usual Irish funeral stuff - but I just couldn't handle the 'cheeriness' of it all. I stayed in my room for the whole night, drowning it out with my iPod and didn't emerge until everyone was gone. I felt like a bit of a c**t because my siblings made the effort. It's not like it was any easier for them.

At the funeral itself, I just went around in a daze the whole time - incapable of processing or reacting to all the nice things people were saying. I'm sure they understood, but I still cringe thinking about it.

0ph0rce0 · 06-11-2013 7:26pm

The One Who Knocks wrote: »

Oh, wait..

There we go

Nicely done

What i meant was can't understand why i was a dick all the time. Never was before i met her? And now i'm not after shes gone

The One Who Knocks · 06-11-2013 7:28pm

A "d*ck" ..what's a "d*ck?"

whirlpool · 06-11-2013 7:34pm

RayM wrote: »

Last year, when my mum died, I'm pretty sure I blanked lots of very nice, well-meaning people. It's a bit of a blur, but I remember feeling completely overwhelmed by it all. The night before the funeral, the house was full of people chatting, drinking, reminiscing, laughing, eating vol-au-vents, etc - the usual Irish funeral stuff - but I just couldn't handle the 'cheeriness' of it all. I stayed in my room for the whole night, drowning it out with my iPod and didn't emerge until everyone was gone. I felt like a bit of a c**t because my siblings made the effort. It's not like it was any easier for them.

In fairness it obviously was easier for them; for them to be around people at that time. Otherwise you would have been down there with them. You found it impossible - and of course that's 110% fine; your mum had just died. F*ck what anyone else thinks (although I highly doubt anyone was thinking badly of you whatsoever - and if they were then they're a d*ck.)

micar · 06-11-2013 7:48pm

I sometimes go a little too far.

I used to blurt dickish stuff out. I now think before I speak but sometimes I fail.

Out a few weeks and was a dick to a guy I'd never met before. He was a friend of a friend. We were in a warm pub and he was wearing a UCD scarf. I could not understand the reasons for wearing it. Was it purely to impress the birds? I just took the piss out of him.

Was in friends house for a few drinks. His mate's boyfriend was there. He told me he worked for a pay day loan company. Basically said that I didn't agree what his company does and would never work for a company like that. Felt pretty awful afterwards. I asked my mate that say to his mate that I was sorry and out of order for speaking to her boyfriend like that. I do want to apologise to him myself.

I say this stuff in order to fit in and be a part of the group and to be funny. Sometimes it ain't and I don't like that part of my personality.

we'llallhavetea · 06-11-2013 7:52pm

good god yes. to the point that i often think about sending a long winded apologetic email. but then i wonder is that self serving? maybe this person would think that i am only doing it to clear my conscience and that i should leave them alone!

also it'd be a bit weird considering this happened about fifteen years ago in school

pharmaton · 06-11-2013 8:03pm

I don't think I've ever sat down and contemplated all the people I've been a dick to, if I was a dick to them they probably did something to deserve it and I don't have any regrets about it

Czarcasm · 06-11-2013 8:17pm

pharmaton wrote: »

I don't think I've ever sat down and contemplated all the people I've been a dick to, if I was a dick to them they probably did something to deserve it and I don't have any regrets about it

Czarcasm wrote: »

I may be a prick, but sometimes I'm a helpful prick :pac:

As for this whole apologising nonsense? Fcuk that, people get over shìt. I hate when people try to apologise to me either. I'm no better than they are so I don't need to hear that crap. Just do better the next time.

Maximus Alexander · 06-11-2013 8:22pm

I often come across as quite dickish without meaning to, or sometimes even realising it. Fortunately I'm fairly charming so people tend to forgive me for it, but I will always apologise if I realise I've done it.

mutley18 · 06-11-2013 8:31pm

Fat fingers! Didn't mean to post.

Micky Dolenz · 06-11-2013 8:35pm

I'm a dick most of the time, it's nothing personal, like.

Femme_Fatale · 06-11-2013 8:36pm

Czarcasm wrote: »

As for this whole apologising nonsense? Fcuk that, people get over shìt. I hate when people try to apologise to me either. I'm no better than they are so I don't need to hear that crap. Just do better the next time.

You shouldn't think everyone feels the same way as you though! Most people would prefer to be apologised to.
Can't get my head around people being "proud" of being dicks too.

Everyone can be a dick at some point - but not all equally, that's for sure. However, it's not as bad (within reason) if you're genuinely remorseful for it later on.

pharmaton · 06-11-2013 8:48pm

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

You shouldn't think everyone feels the same way as you though! Most people would prefer to be apologised to.
Can't get my head around people being "proud" of being dicks too.

Everyone can be a dick at some point - but not all equally, that's for sure. However, it's not as bad (within reason) if you're genuinely remorseful for it later on.

I wouldn't say I'm proud of being a dick (although the thought makes me giggle) but I am proud of my ability to stand up for myself when I need to, if that makes sense. It would hurt me more to hurt someone I love or care about so I'd be devastated if I did and could only hope they would be able to forgive me. (I'm thinking mostly about my daughter here)
I'm not that harsh in real life but I don't suffer fools gladly

Can't speak for Czarcasm but depite his outer shell, he seems like a fairly reasonable human to me too

Czarcasm · 06-11-2013 8:53pm

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

You shouldn't think everyone feels the same way as you though! Most people would prefer to be apologised to.
Can't get my head around people being "proud" of being dicks too.

Everyone can be a dick at some point - but not all equally, that's for sure. However, it's not as bad (within reason) if you're genuinely remorseful for it later on.

Ah no, I know other people don't feel the same way I do, but I just feel that apologising for fcuking people over is a bit childish tbh, and wanting someone to apologise is just as childish. If someone fcuks me over, I'd sooner rather they show that they could learn from the experience and move on, rather than an insincere "sorreee" and turn round and do the same thing again.

I wouldn't say I was ever "proud" of being a dick, but I treat people the way I would like to be treated, and I don't arse lick, so I respect someone more for not fawning over me either. I don't have much time for people who apologise for living, sometimes you have to be a dick to get things done. Some people see that as being a dick, I would see it as being assertive. It depends on your perspective really, like sometimes people see me as being a dick, but I'm being a dick for their own good...

Femme_Fatale · 06-11-2013 9:10pm

Not taking any sh1t isn't the same as being a dick.

And not all apologies are insincere!

pharmaton · 06-11-2013 9:11pm

yeah, that's like hard work

bigron2109 · 06-11-2013 9:14pm

Yeah in Football Manager, were i kept fining a player as he was rubbish.

theblaqueguy · 06-11-2013 9:22pm

Yes I have but he deserved it because he was a dick!

my teapot is orange · 06-11-2013 9:25pm

Czarcasm wrote: »

As for this whole apologising nonsense? Fcuk that, people get over shìt. I hate when people try to apologise to me either. I'm no better than they are so I don't need to hear that crap. Just do better the next time.

If someone was nasty to me just for fun, I wouldn't really be interested in having a next time.

Legs.Eleven · 06-11-2013 9:32pm

Yes, a few times. Usually when drunk and I've loathed myself for days after. It has happened recently, actually. Thought in my drunken state I was sticking up for a friend but actually I went a bit too far.

Gave up alcohol for 2 weeks as my penance and apologised to them last week as we have common friends but we'll never be best pals.

Legs.Eleven · 06-11-2013 9:36pm

Czarcasm wrote: »

Ah no, I know other people don't feel the same way I do, but I just feel that apologising for fcuking people over is a bit childish tbh, and wanting someone to apologise is just as childish. If someone fcuks me over, I'd sooner rather they show that they could learn from the experience and move on, rather than an insincere "sorreee" and turn round and do the same thing again.

Well fcuking someone over or just being a bit of an arsehole. When I apologise, I do mean it and I generally don't do the same thing again. You can apologise AND not do it again. I think it's the civilised thing to do tbh and takes guts. Obviously if they do it again, their apology wasn't sincere but apologies aren't inherently insincere.

Czarcasm · 06-11-2013 9:44pm

Femme_Fatale wrote: »

Not taking any sh1t isn't the same as being a dick.

And not all apologies are insincere!

my teapot is orange wrote: »

If someone was nasty to me just for fun, I wouldn't really be interested in having a next time.

I must be misunderstanding what it means to be a dick, I'd have no time myself for someone who was nasty or spiteful, and at the same time I myself wouldn't bear grudges because people make mistakes, but to me actions have always meant more than words so I place more importance in a persons actions rather than their words.

pharmaton · 06-11-2013 9:49pm

people are dicks all the time, without exception there will be dicks, half the time they don't even know they're dicks

whirlpool · 06-11-2013 9:52pm

pharmaton wrote: »

people are dicks all the time, without exception there will be dicks, half the time they don't even know they're dicks

So what you're saying is.... I didn't have to blank out the word d*ck?

my teapot is orange · 06-11-2013 9:53pm

pharmaton wrote: »

people are dicks all the time, without exception there will be dicks, half the time they don't even know they're dicks

I don't know about other people draw a massive distinction between the ones who know it and the ones who don't. It's never a good thing, but the ones who have clearly thought in advance about what they are going to say to wind you up and are looking for your reaction to see if it's worked, I particularly hate.

cena · 06-11-2013 9:53pm

whirlpool wrote: »

There are times I think of in my past where I said something to someone that could be hurtful to them, and I crinnnnge. It was generally sthing I said or did out of nerves because of social awkwardness - and then regretted it ever since.

Is there any moment in your past where you were (accidentally) a d*ck to someone and cringe when you remember it?

I said something to a girl once. I can't remember what it was but she has never spoken to me since. i have said sorry a few times but no good. I was in a bad place.

pharmaton · 06-11-2013 9:54pm

my teapot is orange wrote: »

I don't know about other people draw a massive distinction between the ones who know it and the ones who don't. It's never a good thing, but the ones who have clearly thought in advance about what they are going to say to wind you up and are looking for your reaction to see if it's worked, I particularly hate.

maybe it would help if you just ignore them? I can honestly say when other people are being dicks it doesn't really bother me very much. I'm probably just immune at this stage.

my teapot is orange · 06-11-2013 9:54pm

pharmaton wrote: »

maybe it would help if you just ignore them?

Oh I definitely do, permanently usually.

pharmaton · 06-11-2013 9:58pm

my teapot is orange wrote: »

Oh I definitely do, permanently usually.

I think that was the point that was made earlier, it's easier to just get over it and move on, hardly any point in apologies.

pharmaton · 06-11-2013 10:02pm

whirlpool wrote: »

So what you're saying is.... I didn't have to blank out the word d*ck?

works for ass too

my teapot is orange · 06-11-2013 10:02pm

pharmaton wrote: »

I think that was the point that was made earlier, it's easier to just get over it and move on, hardly any point in apologies.

How do you move on? It sounds like you maintain your relationship with the person and forget about it. If someone got their kicks from being horrible to me I'd "move on" by distancing myself as much as possible from them. I agree that apologies rarely come into it and I don't usually want them.

Were you ever a d*ck to someone?

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