What is your current life struggle?

SuperGrover · 15-04-2014 3:46pm

I keep playing GTA 5 at night instead of learning my music for the band.

I'm so dead in rehearsal tomorrow.

But, it's all coming to a head with Trevor and Michael and the FIB. Mission after mission. Can't. Put. Down.

lufties · 15-04-2014 3:50pm

Finding a woman I'm actually into and holding on to her, banks and trying mimimize getting shafted by them. Keeping away from drinking too much every day. They are 3 main ones at the moment.

ThirdMan · 15-04-2014 3:56pm

byrned17 wrote: »

Fixing a long, deep-rooted, negative relationship with my body and food.

That makes two of us. I'm up and down in weight the whole time. 18 months ago I was as fit as a fiddle, living an extremely healthy lifestyle and exercising 5 days a week. Now I'm 3 stone overweight, feeling very unhealthy and with no end in sight. Within a year I'll be back in shape, feeling great and thinking I've turned a corner. But it'll all go wrong again. And again. And again. And again.

Anyway, this pizza is just about ready...

LordNorbury · 15-04-2014 3:59pm

Being so gorgeous that they want to arrest me now Father.

Tokyo · 15-04-2014 4:00pm

Merkin wrote: »

Mike.ie - are you touting for business in Personal Issues?

Far from it - we get plenty of visitors as it is

Thankfully I'm at a place in my life where my hardships are over for now, but have gone through my fair share of loss in the past - a sister, girlfriend, and the two people that raised me, plus illness, and that sadly, is the abridged version for my family. Just spent the weekend with an uncle who's coming to terms with the fact that his wife is terminally ill and trying to lend support to him.

One thing that helped me through the not-so-fun days was knowing that there were people out there who had come through far worse, and knowing that I wasn't alone in getting through it. seemed like as good a reason for a thread as any

Lingua Franca · 15-04-2014 4:01pm

Living with and trying to get a diagnosis for a constant stomach complaint. It worsens at night so my sleeping patterns are screwed.

Gheebag · 15-04-2014 4:05pm

Trying to stay alive

weemcd · 15-04-2014 4:31pm

This thread rings true to the old saying that if you took all your troubles and put them in a pile, along with everyone elses and you could see what other people deal with, you would not be long taking your own back.

I have v. little in the way of struggle, I'm currently broke BUT starting a new job next month.

I haven't had much riding of late, BUT I'm improving on that front, new job, new place soon when I'm back on my feet and getting fit is all helping with that confidence that was lacking. Hello ladyee's

I hated my previous job and am glad to be away from it, it was genuinely my biggest problem, and even though I always thought that was the case, I wasn't sure if I was just making it into a bigger thing than it was. Turns out I'm 100% brighter and better off away from the place :cool:

ShiftStorm · 15-04-2014 4:34pm

ThirdMan wrote: »

That makes two of us. I'm up and down in weight the whole time. 18 months ago I was as fit as a fiddle, living an extremely healthy lifestyle and exercising 5 days a week. Now I'm 3 stone overweight, feeling very unhealthy and with no end in sight. Within a year I'll be back in shape, feeling great and thinking I've turned a corner. But it'll all go wrong again. And again. And again. And again.

Anyway, this pizza is just about ready...

Read 'Intuitive Eating' and see what you think. It's changed my life and things are on the up.

ShiftStorm · 15-04-2014 4:35pm

byrned17 wrote: »

Read 'Intuitive Eating' and see what you think. It's changed my life and things are on the up.

(but not the scales, thankfully!)

Benny_Cake · 15-04-2014 4:40pm

Life is pretty good at the moment. I've a home that I can pay the mortgage on (for now), I'm getting married later this year with a great honeymoon coming up after that. I've become involved in a number of things outside of work which I find fulfilling and enjoyable - for too long I was in the habit of going straight home and doing nothing for the evening.

Two areas that need some attention - my job bores the he'll of of me and I've been doing the same thing for too long. It's permanent and pensionable, which is nice and I certainly can't afford to give it up, but I'd like to transfer to a completely different section. That's unlikely to happen anytime soon though. The second is to develop a consistent fitness routine. I get off to a great start with hiking etc, but can't seem to maintain it.

ThirdMan · 15-04-2014 4:45pm

byrned17 wrote: »

Read 'Intuitive Eating' and see what you think. It's changed my life and things are on the up.

Thanks for the tip. I'll be sure to read into it.

I'm a text-book binge eater. So I know what my problem is. I'm also obsessive when it comes to behavioural patterns, both good and bad. If I take an interest in something I max it out. I can, and have, lived as a hard-core vegan for months on end, simply because I was interested in the lifestyle. I can also pack on muscle when I'm interested in lifting weights, or slim right down when I'm interested in long-distance running. The past 15 years of my life have been characterised by various interests that totally consume me and effect my body shape and level of health. Unfortunately for me I'm currently 'interested' in trying new beers, trying new foods, watching movies, reading books and studying. Basically anything that involves sitting down.

loalae · 15-04-2014 4:46pm

Arranging to move to the UK - there's a lot of organisation involved, particularly in my area of work!

Also ALL my friends are either preparing for babies, organising their weddings, or buying houses with their husbands/fiances - I'm extremely single!

I am pie · 15-04-2014 4:55pm

If I could just untether Ireland from it's current location and drift it it a good few thousand miles south west I'd be happy out. 14 hr flights home are a major inconvenience. My salary is now worth nothing in Ireland also, but I'm ok with that. 6 month summer vs money. Summer won.

Call Me Jimmy · 15-04-2014 4:59pm

How cool is Buenos aires on a scale from 1 to deadly?

Ficheall · 15-04-2014 5:03pm

Candie wrote: »

Getting through my viva with my soul and my sanity intact. I'm dying of stress.

I spent almost five years worrying about my viva at the end, because there were so many questions they could have asked that could have easily tripped me and ended up costing me everything I'd worked for. Then viva day came and I was giddy with excitement - one way or the other I was finished working on the PhD and worrying about it. I gave the best presentation I've ever given, the question session afterwards was just like a chat and they didn't ask me any difficult questions, and then I was free*!!!

So don't stress about it - you've the hardest part of the work done, and it looks really bad on them if you fail, so everyone will do their utmost not to let that happen. Be grand!

*I've since started a postdoc which I'm not enjoying at all, and don't have the balls to quit, but that's another story...

lily09 · 15-04-2014 5:12pm

My current life struggle is that i have my first apt with the pregnancy loss clinic this week after 3 miscarraiges in 8 months. Each one has slowly broken me down but I believe things will get better.

Gi joe! · 15-04-2014 5:17pm

At the moment it would be my love life. Since cutting down on drinking/clubbing I've been finding it so hard to do, when I am out at a club/bar I sometimes feel like a creep approaching women when I'm sober.

Apart from that things are pretty great, I have a half decent job, a loving family and my health(mental especially!)

Compared to some of the other posts in this thread I have very little to complain about!

I am pie · 15-04-2014 5:23pm

Call Me Jimmy wrote: »

How cool is Buenos aires on a scale from 1 to deadly?

Somewhere in between most entertaining city in the world and the most frustrating city in the world. If it had a personality it would be subject to some unpredictable mood swings. Glorious and terrible, beautiful and ugly, incredibly friendly & hostile... all before I reach the office in the morning.

I love it, but it's not for the faint hearted. Spanish is a must and so is a DIY attitude. The drama makes life interesting, for me. Not for lovers of the quiet life, only for people who manage stress well !

Penny Tration · 15-04-2014 5:30pm

Only real struggle at the moment is making time to see my bf.

Working ridiculous hours at the moment because my colleague is out til next month, combined with looking after my mam (she's disabled). It's starting to take a toll on me. I'm fine with a lack of sleep when I'm on 4 day weeks in work, but on 6 day weeks, trying to look after her, see him, see my friends and find time to do the basics like eat and shower - I'm struggling. Just have to get through this month and it'll get better. It's making me very tired and snappy, which I don't like. Snapped at my mam the day before yesterday and I feel awful over it.

sock puppet · 15-04-2014 5:31pm

Garrigai wrote: »

6 months into a three and a half year contract and I hate my job

Auditor I presume? At least busy season is over.

upstairs for coffee · 15-04-2014 5:41pm

Lazy, lack of discipline, red bull cravings (at least 1 a day at this stage), poor college student when it comes to studying...grrr

FullblownRose · 15-04-2014 5:47pm

Dealing with someone who is basically very selfish and inconsiderate and demanding and trying to live some kind of life of my own at the same time.

Duff · 15-04-2014 5:49pm

My thesis. I hate everyone and I hope the sun explodes.

Rothko · 15-04-2014 5:50pm

Dealing with social anxiety and trying to lose weight

beano345 · 15-04-2014 5:52pm

Saving to travel south east Asia again and teach english,although I've been there before the teaching part will be new to me.

Galwayguy35 · 15-04-2014 5:53pm

Money problems, going bald and trying to get myself fit again, although reading some of the things other people here have to deal with I ain't got much to complain about.

Czarcasm · 15-04-2014 5:53pm

I used to be terrible for my inability to say 'no' to people, and then I got good at it when I started to tell myself it was ok to say no to people and it was ok to be selfish, take time out and concentrate on putting myself first.

But it's slowly creeping back into my life again now this inability to say no to people, because I'm not happy leaving stuff unfinished, incomplete, or "putting it off till tomorrow" (I have other shìt planned for tomorrow already), and I know if I don't get it under control and implement a proper time management system and stop taking on shìt, I'll snap, again, and then I'll get bored not doing stuff, and then I'll throw myself into stuff again because I'm afraid that they'll get someone else to do the job and that person will make a balls of it.

I hate the control-freak, micro-managing, people pleasing perfectionist nature of my personality that preaches that there's nothing wrong with failure, yet I'm shìte at taking my own advice.

Knowing **** and getting control over it is what I'm struggling with right now. Also cursing like a sailor - it's vulgar, uncouth, unnecessary, and I'm struggling with cutting it out of my vocabulary.

Donkey Oaty · 15-04-2014 5:59pm

Czarcasm wrote: »

Also cursing like a sailor

"Billions of bilious blue blistering barnacles!" - Captain Haddock.

Or better still, come up with some new ones. Now there's a thread waiting to happen.

Kitty6277 · 15-04-2014 6:02pm

I want to start learning to drive but it's expensive and I can't afford it :rolleyes:

Actually, I can't afford anything in general.

KimmyKims · 15-04-2014 6:05pm

My health is shockingly bad as of late. When i had my operation to remove cancer back in 2012 i thought a few months of recovery and i will be ok. That was wishful thinking. The long term side effects that have resulted from that operation affect me everyday. I pick up every illness going and i just generally feel woeful some days....

But, im alive ( thanks to my oncologist ) and im here for my two children so i can live with it.

Galwayguy35 · 15-04-2014 6:15pm

Kitty6277 wrote: »

I want to start learning to drive but it's expensive and I can't afford it :rolleyes:

Actually, I can't afford anything in general.

Maybe your mother or father could teach you?

carolinespring · 15-04-2014 6:19pm

Self employed business stress. Feel like a debt collector half the time.

Gheebag · 15-04-2014 6:25pm

Now it's trying to stop myself from ringing my ex.Oh God.

carraig2 · 15-04-2014 6:28pm

Problems with weight, alcohol and depression. All 3 are linked.
Feel bad reading other people's posts. The solutions to my problems lie with me and I just won't do it.

Kitty6277 · 15-04-2014 6:30pm

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Maybe your mother or father could teach you?

True, still have to do the theory test though.

Arthur Beesley · 15-04-2014 6:36pm

On the DART at the moment, I have an itchy arse but can't give it a good scratch.

markfinn · 15-04-2014 6:39pm

shamrock55 wrote: »

Not being able to get a job is really getting to me now, im fed up sending out cvs, i dont know what more i can do

I hear ya. Job due to disappear in less than a fortnight... Loadsa recruiters, no actual jobs :-/

c_man · 15-04-2014 6:44pm

I feel pretty lonely most of the time tbh.

Donkey Oaty · 15-04-2014 6:46pm

carraig2 wrote: »

Problems with weight, alcohol and depression. All 3 are linked.
Feel bad reading other people's posts. The solutions to my problems lie with me and I just won't do it.

You won't want to hear this, but the truth is that by posting about it you are already taking control of the situation.

A tiny nudge in the right direction is all you need to give yourself, not overnight solutions.

That suggestion goes for the guy on the Dart with the itchy arse as well.

LynnGrace · 15-04-2014 6:53pm

Czarcasm wrote: »

I used to be terrible for my inability to say 'no' to people, and then I got good at it when I started to tell myself it was ok to say no to people and it was ok to be selfish, take time out and concentrate on putting myself first.

But it's slowly creeping back into my life again now this inability to say no to people, because I'm not happy leaving stuff unfinished, incomplete, or "putting it off till tomorrow" (I have other shìt planned for tomorrow already), and I know if I don't get it under control and implement a proper time management system and stop taking on shìt, I'll snap, again, and then I'll get bored not doing stuff, and then I'll throw myself into stuff again because I'm afraid that they'll get someone else to do the job and that person will make a balls of it.

I hate the control-freak, micro-managing, people pleasing perfectionist nature of my personality that preaches that there's nothing wrong with failure, yet I'm shìte at taking my own advice.

This is very similar, for me, and it has affected my health.
Am working on changing what I can, in my approach.

Wompa1 · 15-04-2014 7:10pm

Work stress. Tight deadlines, lots of work, no help. Waking up with my heart racing every morning, anxious. Employers told me to submit to present at some big conferences, I did and got picked to present on three topics but I'm not being given the time to actually put my presentations together. I've been working pretty much every hour of the day, every day.

But whatever, got to get on with it.

Ilyana 2.0 · 15-04-2014 7:15pm

Exams looming for a course I'm starting to hate. No motivation to do my assignments or study, but the fear of disappointing people. A chronic lack of time, especially with a crappy weekend job. Trying to see my boyfriend when we both have manic schedules. College friends seemingly turning against me, although I have no idea idea why.

They're all fairly trivial things but cumulatively, they all add up. I'm trying to do nice things for myself every couple of days, like watching a movie in bed, or making myself a nice dinner. It makes things slightly less crap!

15-04-2014 7:21pm

Nothing really.

Had a pretty sh*t year last year and couldn't imagine how happy and grand I'd be now. Can't complain about anything really. There are small things, but meh!

thegreatgonzo · 15-04-2014 7:26pm

I have exams coming up in 3 weeks, that's not so bad itself but it's hard to find the headspace to study. I come home a lot to my parents because my dad has alzheimers and my mom is elderly and they can't manage the farm alone. It was a particularly hard spring for us work wise and I missed a fair bit of college due to the farm, driving my parents to hospital appointments and getting sick myself. I have one sibling that refuses to help out and is quite abusive sometimes and another who lives far away and is extremely busy so I don't get away from the situation often. Hopefully when I'm finally qualified later this year I'll be lucky enough to get a job and get back to where I was a few years ago, what I miss far more than money is just being able to hang out with friends and have a laugh.

15-04-2014 7:30pm

Ficheall wrote: »

I spent almost five years worrying about my viva at the end, because there were so many questions they could have asked that could have easily tripped me and ended up costing me everything I'd worked for. Then viva day came and I was giddy with excitement - one way or the other I was finished working on the PhD and worrying about it. I gave the best presentation I've ever given, the question session afterwards was just like a chat and they didn't ask me any difficult questions, and then I was free*!!!

So don't stress about it - you've the hardest part of the work done, and it looks really bad on them if you fail, so everyone will do their utmost not to let that happen. Be grand!

I'm actually quite confident, but I just want it over. Over, over, over!!!. I'm exhausted worrying about it!

*I've since started a postdoc which I'm not enjoying at all, and don't have the balls to quit, but that's another story...

This is both my worst nightmare and a distinct possibility!

--LOS-- · 15-04-2014 7:31pm

Bell's Palsy (or ells alsy as it should be called). One side of my face has been paralysed for a week now, lawd knows how long it will last, one of my eyes stays opened permanently so that I'm forever winking at everyone, I have to tape it shut at night, fun! My taste is really affected, eating's hard, drinking's hard, my speech is somewhat affected, not to mention how goofy it makes you look and the ignorance you have to deal with from people because of that. And I've had nothing but conflicting advice from doctors. Then today when I was walking home some lad was shouting at me from a bike, I figured either he's just another sexist arsehole or he's being ignorant about my face, nope, I looked down when I got home and realised my fly was opened :P Damn language barrier. I can't wait to do a class presentation next week with it ¬_¬ Overall though it's not a big problem, just an annoying thing to have, trouble is I'm pretty sure I have it from being run-down, not eating, not sleeping, not looking after myself because of a much bigger issue, depression. Add to that how hard it is to do a masters at the same time, it's like climbing everest at the moment. On the bright side (which I feel like I should add for such a gloomy post!) I am getting help and I am optimistic, and sometimes I catch my face in the mirror and just cannot stop laughing at how stupid I look

15-04-2014 7:34pm

--LOS-- wrote: »

Bell's Palsy (or ells alsy as it should be called). One side of my face has been paralysed for a week now, lawd knows how long it will last, one of my eyes stays opened permanently so that I'm forever winking at everyone, I have to tape it shut at night, fun! My taste is really affected, eating's hard, drinking's hard, my speech is somewhat affected, not to mention how goofy it makes you look and the ignorance you have to deal with from people because of that. And I've had nothing but conflicting advice from doctors. Then today when I was walking home some lad was shouting at me from a bike, I figured either he's just another sexist arsehole or he's being ignorant about my face, nope, I looked down when I got home and realised my fly was opened :P Damn language barrier. I can't wait to do a class presentation next week with it ¬_¬ Overall though it's not a big problem, just an annoying thing to have, trouble is I'm pretty sure I have it from being run-down, not eating, not sleeping, not looking after myself because of a much bigger issue, depression. Add to that how hard it is to do a masters at the same time, it's like climbing everest at the moment. On the bright side (which I feel like I should add for such a gloomy post!) I am getting help and I am optimistic, and sometimes I catch my face in the mirror and just cannot stop laughing at how stupid I look

You poor thing. A friend had Bells Palsy in school, it disappeared as abruptly as it appeared. I hope the same for you.

shuyin1 · 15-04-2014 7:42pm

Garrigai wrote: »

6 months into a three and a half year contract and I hate my job

trainee a/c :P

--LOS-- · 15-04-2014 7:44pm

Candie wrote: »

You poor thing. A friend had Bells Palsy in school, it disappeared as abruptly as it appeared. I hope the same for you.

ye hopefully it'll be over in a few weeks like most people, one doctor was making it sound like it might never go which was making me feel sorry for myself but I think it's just one of those things where there's a lot of conflicting ideas on causes and treatments, I'm pretty confident myself it'll sort itself out soon. Thank you!

What is your current life struggle?

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