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Facebook Dilemma?

  • 01-11-2014 5:45pm
    #1
    Electric Boobs
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 179 ✭✭Electric Boobs


    At the moment I have only about 30 friends. These friends cannot see what friends I have, which probably looks a bit odd for those of my friends who bother to have a proper snoop around my page to see who I associate with. So I'm just wondering what do people think of people who only have a small number of friends on this social media. These days it seems you'd want to have more than 150 friends on facebook, in order to not look like a complete loaner. And anything over a 1,000 would make you look a bit too loose. So I'm just wondering should I make my friends viewable to my friends?

    I'm just a little more reserved in comparison to the rest of my generation. You'd see some knackers, and they'd everything about their family up for the world to see. This makes them quite vulnerable to cyber bullying in the odd event it should happen. I however, am quite happy to be one of those dormant facebook user. I don't post anything, unless in the rare occasion I achieve something or the like. But, of course I think it's ridiculous to be posting random remotely interesting things like let's say an oddly shaped carrot you ended up buying.

    It's also annoying when someone who who clearly doesn't like you, and who you don't like too, sends you a friend request. Especially when this person interacts with you on a daily basis, and probably just does so that they can have a snoop about who you are. It's like as if you feel they'll eventually say "why didn't you return my friend request?" Equally, I get people who I interact with on a daily basis assuming I ignored their request because just I mightn't have logged in, in several days.


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  • #2
    Sunnyisland
    Closed Accounts Posts: 10,562 ✭✭✭✭Sunnyisland


    3 billon...


  • #3
    Annasopra
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 41,220 ✭✭✭✭Annasopra


    Not worrying about the number is healthy.

    Making friends in real life is healthy.

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



  • #4
    Electric Boobs
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 179 ✭✭Electric Boobs


    Joeytheparrot wrote: »
    Not worrying about the number is healthy.

    Making friends in real life is healthy.
    Well I mean that goes with out saying. But back to the dilemma I'm in...


  • #5
    The Strawman Argument
    Closed Accounts Posts: 477 ✭✭The Strawman Argument


    After years of being really f*cking restrictive in regards to who I'd keep as friends, I'm just adding damn near anyone I bump into now (which is still a pretty low number) and I'd say it's helped some of those become actual friends. It's basically an IM app for me, plus you can hit up these people when you need something easy enough, the fact neither of you have deleted each other means you both might be willing to help the other person out a bit when they're stuck, if nothing else.




    No family though, never family. I even have a list of people who know people from my external family so I can exclude them from posts.


  • #6
    AgileMyth
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,746 ✭✭✭AgileMyth


    Joeytheparrot wrote: »
    Making friends in real life is healthy.
    You're much more likely to be murdered by someone you know. That's why I try not to know anyone. So far its working, I've never been in the slightest way murdered.


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  • #7
    Lucifer MorningStar
    Closed Accounts Posts: 1,218 ✭✭✭Lucifer MorningStar


    666


  • #8
    RonanP77
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,182 ✭✭✭RonanP77


    I have a few good mates in real life, I come from a massive family and I do distance learning so have college buddies I wouldn't get to see in the real world.

    I think I have 150ish FB friends, I got rid of 200 or so in the last while because we never actually bothered with each other.


  • #9
    fussyonion
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,821 ✭✭✭fussyonion


    This is so NOT a dilemma.......


  • #10
    mad muffin
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,034 ✭✭✭mad muffin


    Electric Boobs wrote: »
    At the moment I have only about 30 friends. These friends cannot see what friends I have, which probably looks a bit odd for those of my friends who bother to have a proper snoop around my page to see who I associate with. So I'm just wondering what do people think of people who only have a small number of friends on this social media. These days it seems you'd want to have more than 150 friends on facebook, in order to not look like a complete loaner. And anything over a 1,000 would make you look a bit too loose. So I'm just wondering should I make my friends viewable to my friends?

    I'm just a little more reserved in comparison to the rest of my generation. You'd see some knackers, and they'd everything about their family up for the world to see. This makes them quite vulnerable to cyber bullying in the odd event it should happen. I however, am quite happy to be one of those dormant facebook user. I don't post anything, unless in the rare occasion I achieve something or the like. But, of course I think it's ridiculous to be posting random remotely interesting things like let's say an oddly shaped carrot you ended up buying.

    It's annoying when someone who you presume clearly doesn't like you, and who you don't like too, sends you a friend request. Especially when this person interacts, and probably just do it in order to have a snoop about who you are. It's like as if you feel they'll eventually say "why didn't you return my friend request?" Also I get people who I interact with on a daily basis assuming I ignored their request because just I mightn't have logged in, in several days.



    The WTF thread is that way -->


  • #11
    Chunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 424 ✭✭Chunners


    I have 6 facebook friends, 1 is my other half, 2 are people that I do consider friends IRL, 1 is a girl I have known most of my life and 2 are people who just added me because I post on the same Red Dwarf page they post on on there and we tend to bounce off each other with jokes when we are talking about Red Dwarf. Do I give a ****? NO, do I feel like it makes me look less validated? HELL NO. I get friends requests all the time from random strangers and if I was to accept them I'd have 100s of "friends" but the truth is I can't be arsed to read their drivel or sit there all day thumbing up their posts or accepting their game requests. My friend list is not small because I am unpopular it is small because I am very selective about who and what I consider to be a friend


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  • #12
    scamalert
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,739 ✭✭✭scamalert


    1st world problem. Dilemma is in your head op. Gave up on Facebook some time ago reasons: i dont give a F*** about momies sharing their baby pics,not intrested what you ate,how awesome your night was,nor whatever crap you compiled today to share with the rest of your 1000 cyber friends. If i need help i have phone with numbers that i know i will reach someone to help me out when needed.If friends live abroad i might use skype or txt them. As for compiling lists of people that you have met at some time in your life and adding them to your collection well,new age hobby me thinks.


  • #13
    Rubberlegs
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 7,073 ✭✭✭Rubberlegs


    I'm a complete loner, less than 100, and know them all in real life. Unlike those I know with. 500+, who pick up strays along the way, to bump up the friend count


  • #14
    Electric Boobs
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 179 ✭✭Electric Boobs


    fussyonion wrote: »
    This is so NOT a dilemma.......
    What would you do so?


  • #15
    Heisenberg88
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 87 ✭✭Heisenberg88


    Oh my Golly gosh, like the other day I was in work and my hair didn't look right. I was ssssoooooooo going to die and fall over with embarrassment if anyone saw me. How was I going to leave my desk without anyone seeing a piece of hair out of place. Lucky I got to the bathroom without anyone seeing it. I thought I was going to die, it was a horrifying experience.


  • #16
    Lucyfur
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 32,513 ✭✭✭✭Lucyfur


    Electric Boobs wrote: »
    What would you do so?

    Burn the house down.


  • #17
    Electric Boobs
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 179 ✭✭Electric Boobs


    Lucyfur wrote: »
    Burn the house down.
    You have been issued a warning for your snide attitude!


  • #18
    Heisenberg88
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 87 ✭✭Heisenberg88


    Electric Boobs wrote: »
    You have been issued a warning for your snide attitude!

    How are your boobs electric?


  • #19
    Chunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 424 ✭✭Chunners


    Heisenberg88 wrote: »
    How are your boobs electric?

    Friction, it's like rubbing two balloons with nipples together, sooner or later you are going to get a static discharge


  • #20
    billyhead
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 10,457 ✭✭✭✭billyhead


    Facebook if a ****in joke. People with 100s of friends just to look like they are really popular.. Like I bet these same people could count the number of those on their hands that they could consider real friends. Its also hilarious as to what people post on it aswell. I don't give a ****e what you had for dinner.


  • #21
    ytpe2r5bxkn0c1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 32,688 ✭✭✭✭ytpe2r5bxkn0c1


    Perhaps go and talk to a real friend or two and they may explain the obscurity of worrying about friends on Facebook.


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  • #22
    Donald73
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 399 ✭✭Donald73


    Heisenberg88 wrote: »
    Oh my Golly gosh, like the other day I was in work and my hair didn't look right. I was ssssoooooooo going to die and fall over with embarrassment if anyone saw me. How was I going to leave my desk without anyone seeing a piece of hair out of place. Lucky I got to the bathroom without anyone seeing it. I thought I was going to die, it was a horrifying experience.

    Keep a hat in your desk drawer, sorted ;)

    OP you totally picked the wrong forum to ask a serious question. I would not be bothered about amount of friends, I don't even know how many I have on FB. I know people who have hundreds and even thousands of friends - it makes my head spin just to think of how fast their FB newsfeed must move. Everyone who is on mine I know, mostly family, friends, ex-workmates and some friends I made on various forums. It's all about quality not quantity. Also I doubt your friends really care how many or few you have x

    Just looked for the heck of it, I have 184 friends on there.


  • #23
    Electric Boobs
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 179 ✭✭Electric Boobs


    Heisenberg88 wrote: »
    How are your boobs electric?
    deliciously perfect, and you'll never get hold of them!


  • #24
    Chunners
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 424 ✭✭Chunners


    Electric Boobs wrote: »
    deliciously perfect, and you'll never get hold of them!

    He doesn't want to get a hold of them but he is probably holding on to the hope that if he buries his head in them and says "Nom nom nom" the static electricity your tits generate will cure his receding hairline :D


  • #25
    dublinman1990
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,837 ✭✭✭dublinman1990


    Having a small number of friends on facebook is not really an actual "dilemma" in the way you are describing it OP.

    You can have as many or as little friends as you like on Facebook as long it can make you yourself happy. Another good thing is that this sort of "dilemma" should not make you lose any sleep overnight as its only a minor issue in your life.

    There are bigger things out there for you to worry about in the real world.

    Also I think this type of question will be suitable in the Blogs/Wikis/Social Networks sub forum in the Technology section to ask for a better opinion.


  • #26
    Electric Boobs
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 179 ✭✭Electric Boobs


    dublinman1990 wrote: »
    You can have as many or as little friends as you like on Facebook as long it can make you yourself happy. Another good thing is that this sort of "dilemma" should not make you lose any sleep overnight as its only a minor issue in your life.
    Forgive me, but I'm only left with minor issues. Am I allowed to discuss them too??


  • #27
    Tail Docker
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,954 ✭✭✭Tail Docker


    I have 442 "friends" on Facebook, which just goes to show what utter bullsh1t being "friends" on Facebook is.


  • #28
    dublinman1990
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 8,837 ✭✭✭dublinman1990


    Electric Boobs wrote: »
    Forgive me, but I'm only left with minor issues. Am I allowed to discuss them too??

    Yeah sure anybody can do that including yourself. You just have to make sure to ask the right people though so you wouldn't get lost or anything.

    Anyone who says the opposite of that though can look like an pure tool in life.


  • #29
    Cee-Jay-Cee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,235 ✭✭✭✭Cee-Jay-Cee


    Electric Boobs wrote: »
    At the moment I have only about 30 friends. These friends cannot see what friends I have, which probably looks a bit odd for those of my friends who bother to have a proper snoop around my page to see who I associate with. So I'm just wondering what do people think of people who only have a small number of friends on this social media. These days it seems you'd want to have more than 150 friends on facebook, in order to not look like a complete loaner. And anything over a 1,000 would make you look a bit too loose. So I'm just wondering should I make my friends viewable to my friends?

    I'm just a little more reserved in comparison to the rest of my generation. You'd see some knackers, and they'd everything about their family up for the world to see. This makes them quite vulnerable to cyber bullying in the odd event it should happen. I however, am quite happy to be one of those dormant facebook user. I don't post anything, unless in the rare occasion I achieve something or the like. But, of course I think it's ridiculous to be posting random remotely interesting things like let's say an oddly shaped carrot you ended up buying.

    It's also annoying when someone who who clearly doesn't like you, and who you don't like too, sends you a friend request. Especially when this person interacts with you on a daily basis, and probably just does so that they can have a snoop about who you are. It's like as if you feel they'll eventually say "why didn't you return my friend request?" Equally, I get people who I interact with on a daily basis assuming I ignored their request because just I mightn't have logged in, in several days.

    I read the first line or two of the first paragraph and got bored but wondered how you managed to write three pretty large paragraphs on such a boring and nonsense topic? Did you use one of those 'random topic generators' or what?


  • #30
    Candy_Girl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 474 ✭✭Candy_Girl


    Is this what youth is all about these days? I'm so glad I'm half old.


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  • #31
    qo2cj1dsne8y4k
    Closed Accounts Posts: 23,646 ✭✭✭✭qo2cj1dsne8y4k


    I don't let my friends number go over 150. I delete people if I'm at 150 and have someone new to add. People can't see who in friends with either. So what, it's none of their business anyway.


  • #32
    lulu1
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,816 ✭✭✭lulu1


    op dose any one actually give a dam how many friends you have on face book so dont lose any sleep over it I know people who would accept any tom dick or harry. if this is the only dilemma you have in life you will be very lucky


    You can add me if you want


  • #33
    Hachiko
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,698 ✭✭✭Hachiko


    45,098,000


  • #34
    cerastes
    Closed Accounts Posts: 3,601 ✭✭✭cerastes


    what dilemma? fcuk FB


  • #35
    B.A._Baracus
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 11,230 ✭✭✭✭B.A._Baracus


    I'll be honest...
    Before Facebook got popular and while bebo was still on top. I got sucked into the whole "if my page has low number of friends I come off as a loner" type mentality. I was young, stupid and naive. But I grew up.

    When you think about social media it really is a load of crud. People are just projecting themselves because there was a time when going out to a pub with your mates was to have fun and get drunk. Now it's to take pictures and project this 'fun' social life you got.

    It's all just one big stupid game. All projecting your actual life into something more than it's not. Geez, I think Facebook should have the slogan of "keeping up with the jones" - But even then you can't blame Facebook or any other website. It's people.

    Same people who go nuts to buy a 600 euro phone.


  • #36
    shruikan2553
    Closed Accounts Posts: 6,113 ✭✭✭shruikan2553


    LexieOnRale wrote: »
    I don't let my friends number go over 150. I delete people if I'm at 150 and have someone new to add. People can't see who in friends with either. So what, it's none of their business anyway.

    I'm pretty much the same. If I notice I go above 150 I go through the list and unfriend anyone I wouldn't say hello to if I passed them on the street.


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  • #37
    roadsmart
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 625 ✭✭✭roadsmart


    Probably one of the saddest threads on boards.


  • #38
    o1s1n
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 36,136 ✭✭✭✭o1s1n
    Master of the Universe


    If this is the type of stuff you worry about OP you must live a very stress free life.


  • #39
    BMJD
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,694 ✭✭✭BMJD


    o1s1n wrote: »
    If this is the type of stuff you worry about OP you must live a very stress free life.

    you're lucky, you probably get poked a few times a day. Your friends probably tend to your farmville when you're at work. WHAT ABOUT THOSE OF US WHO DON'T HAVE THIS??!??!?!?!!


  • #40
    Lapin
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 18,184 ✭✭✭✭Lapin


    I don't own a cell phone or a pager. I just hang around everyone I know, all the time. If someone wants to get a hold of me, they just say 'Mitch,' and I say 'what?' and turn my head slightly.


    The one and only Mitch Hedberg.


  • #41
    BMJD
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,694 ✭✭✭BMJD


    Lapin wrote: »
    I don't own a cell phone or a pager. I just hang around everyone I know, all the time. If someone wants to get a hold of me, they just say 'Mitch,' and I say 'what?' and turn my head slightly.


    The one and only Mitch Hedberg.

    "and then they say, Mitch, would you ever fvck off, I'm trying to have a ****e"


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  • #42
    [Deleted User]
    Posts: 18,749 ✭✭✭✭ [Deleted User]


    I have zero Facebook friends.


    I have real life friends.


  • #43
    DoYouEvenLift
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 3,188 ✭✭✭DoYouEvenLift


    Facebook's done, outside of the chat hardly anyone still uses it nowadays and even then most people will just use whatsapp and Snapchat plus sites like Instagram and twitter. Notice more and more people deleting/deactivating their accounts in the last few months, heading towards doing it myself I'd say.


  • #44
    Cee-Jay-Cee
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,235 ✭✭✭✭Cee-Jay-Cee


    DoYouEvenLift wrote: »
    Facebook's done, outside of the chat hardly anyone still uses it nowadays and even then most people will just use whatsapp and Snapchat plus sites like Instagram and twitter. Notice more and more people deleting/deactivating their accounts in the last few months, heading towards doing it myself I'd say.

    You see that's not actually true. It may be in your case but certainly not mine or my friends who still regularly use it. I'd imagine it's age dependent. I don't use snapchat because frankly it's childish crap.


  • #45
    ShadowHearth
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,924 ✭✭✭✭ShadowHearth


    I have only 50 friends on Facebook and even then I think I need to do a clean up. What's the point of having people on your Facebook that you don't really know well or even want to know.


  • #46
    Gael23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,145 ✭✭✭✭Gael23


    I have just over 1000 friends on Facebook.
    A good few are college friends and school friends and a smaller amount of family and some friends I've grown up with all my life. The majority (about half) are from an organisation I'm involved in. We usually only see each other physically a few times a year so its an easy way of staying in touch. Some of those are not really good friends but we get along and have something in common.


  • #47
    UCDVet
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2,894 ✭✭✭UCDVet


    If you care about such things - spend an hour or two adding complete strangers. These days - about half of everyone you request will add you.


  • #48
    Gael23
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 12,145 ✭✭✭✭Gael23


    UCDVet wrote: »
    If you care about such things - spend an hour or two adding complete strangers. These days - about half of everyone you request will add you.

    Sometimes happens but I don't think its ok to add just anybody. There are some people I come into contact with professionally and I don't really think its appropriate to contact them via Facebook


  • #49
    Travis Old-fashioned Variation
    Posts: 0 CMod ✭✭✭✭ Travis Old-fashioned Variation


    Heisenberg88 wrote: »
    How are your boobs electric?

    are friends electric


  • #50
    cloud493
    Closed Accounts Posts: 11,835 ✭✭✭✭cloud493


    Cloud493's Facebook friends - zero, since I deleted Facebook when I copped onto the fact its a ****e **** contest for teenagers.


  • #51
    Electric Boobs
    Banned (with Prison Access) Posts: 179 ✭✭Electric Boobs


    bluewolf wrote: »
    are friends electric
    moderators can get away with being trolls!!??


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