Why would anyone want to get married??

nicegirl

dharma200 wrote: »

Fathers can go for legal guardianship. Quite simple to do. However differing second names etc can be problematic, as can differing nationalities etc....

There are a lot of things that can be better legislated for etc. I would suggest any unmarried man who is expecting a child get legal guardianship sorted on the day of birth.

Once again though, it is a reason for people to get married, which answers the ops question.

I do agree that if a couple really want to have children, and are in love and happy, then I do think it is good for the couple to get married in a situation like that. And, also no I do not want children.

Legs.Eleven

dharma200 wrote: »

Fathers can go for legal guardianship. Quite simple to do. However differing second names etc can be problematic, as can differing nationalities etc....

There are a lot of things that can be better legislated for etc. I would suggest any unmarried man who is expecting a child get legal guardianship sorted on the day of birth.

Once again though, it is a reason for people to get married, which answers the ops question.

And they're all very good reasons. The rest of the OTT "You wouldn't understand as you've never loved someone" stuff is something we hear all too often though.

Edit: I'm repeating myself. You get the idea ;-)

Hannibal Smith

PingO_O wrote: »

I think she knows this.

I don't think she does

Legs.Eleven

Hannibal Smith wrote: »

I don't think she does

I'm with someone now and couldn't imagine being with someone else. Marriage wouldn't change that.

nicegirl

Hannibal Smith wrote: »

I don't think she does

I do know this.

dharma200

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

And they're all very good reasons. The rest of the OTT "You wouldn't understand as you've never loved someone" stuff is something we hear all too often though.

Edit: I'm repeating myself. You get the idea ;-)

I do, I don't think I have said anything about never loving someone enough but I will go through my posts in case I might have... I'm my opinion love and commitment are two completely different things, one can fall in and out of love in a hourly basis lol... Commitment and responsibility are separate to be fair, if you have live, commitment and responsibility then that's brilliant... Either married or not... However many reasons have been pointed out as to why people would want to get married, most of them valid

krudler

Not wanting to get married makes you selfish now? ok then..

T-K-O

dharma200 wrote: »

I do, I don't think I have said anything about never loving someone enough but I will go through my posts in case I might have... I'm my opinion love and commitment are two completely different things, one can fall in and out of love in a hourly basis lol... Commitment and responsibility are separate to be fair, if you have live, commitment and responsibility then that's brilliant... Either married or not... However many reasons have been pointed out as to why people would want to get married, most of them valid

The horn and love are two completely different things :pac:

upinthesky

People do it all for show, they don't set foot in a church all year then they go getting married have the kids christened and make their communion.

I don't need some sick priest to give me a piece of paper to tell me I love someone. I'm not saying every priest is sick but I can guarantee they no a sick one!

T-K-O

you don't need a priest to get married.

Legs.Eleven

dharma200 wrote: »

I do, I don't think I have said anything about never loving someone enough but I will go through my posts in case I might have... I'm my opinion love and commitment are two completely different things, one can fall in and out of love in a hourly basis lol... Commitment and responsibility are separate to be fair, if you have live, commitment and responsibility then that's brilliant... Either married or not... However many reasons have been pointed out as to why people would want to get married, most of them valid

Sorry, I wasn't referring to you - you've been reasonable in your argument. Sorry!

upinthesky

T-K-O wrote: »

you don't need a priest to get married.

yes I know this but most people that don't go to mass will still get married in a church. Why I will never no, the only explanation I can come up with is for show.

i'm with my patner 15 years and I would not get married there is absolutely no need for it, I think the couples that are more insecure tend to get married.

Hannibal Smith

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

But marriage has nothing to do with that.

Marriage has nothing to do with being in a relationship? ??

Hannibal Smith

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

I'm with someone now and couldn't imagine being with someone else. Marriage wouldn't change that.

Marriage solidifies it.

upinthesky

Hannibal Smith wrote: »

Marriage solidifies it.

Yes if you're highly insecure

Ms2011

I'm getting married next year.
When I refer to my partner as my other half that's literally what he is, he's the other half that makes me whole (sorry that's so soppy!!)
God forbid he died tomorrow then that'd be it for me in the 'dating world', I have no interest in begining with anyone else & he feels the same.
We have been together for 7.5 yrs & have a little boy & after awhile refering to him as my boyfriend, partner etc. just doesn't seem enough, we want to take that extra step to becoming husband & wife.
They're some of my reasons for getting married anyway.

Legs.Eleven

Hannibal Smith wrote: »

Marriage has nothing to do with being in a relationship? ??

Nope. Not what I said. If you want to be with someone forever and you can't imagine your life without them, marriage doesn't alter/improve/strengthen/change that.

You can live your life together forever without marriage, so your comment doesn't make sense.

Legs.Eleven

Hannibal Smith wrote: »

Marriage solidifies it.

Ah! Now you're choosing to be less obtuse.



Marriage doesn't solidify those feelings.

MonstaMash

Ms2011 wrote: »

I'm getting married next year.
When I refer to my partner as my other half that's literally what he is, he's the other half that makes me whole (sorry that's so soppy!!)
God forbid he died tomorrow then that'd be it for me in the 'dating world', I have no interest in begining with anyone else & he feels the same.
We have been together for 7.5 yrs & have a little boy & after awhile refering to him as my boyfriend, partner etc. just doesn't seem enough, we want to take that extra step to becoming husband & wife.
They're some of my reasons for getting married anyway.

Good on you girl...nothing wrong with being soppy

Best wishes for you & your other half on your impending nuptuals

T-K-O

lisar816 wrote: »

yes I know this but most people that don't go to mass will still get married in a church. Why I will never no, the only explanation I can come up with is for show.

i'm with my patner 15 years and I would not get married there is absolutely no need for it, I think the couples that are more insecure tend to get married.

lisar816 wrote: »

Yes if you're highly insecure

That's just silly. People are different, some elope, some have extravagant weddings but most are basically making a commitment and want to mark that occasion.

Some people like to get married in a church as they are usually nice buildings. The god angle is played out, if you are really against marriage leave god out of it as it weakens your arguments IMO.

Synyster Shadow

lisar816 wrote: »

People do it all for show, they don't set foot in a church all year then they go getting married have the kids christened and make their communion.

I don't need some sick priest to give me a piece of paper to tell me I love someone. I'm not saying every priest is sick but I can guarantee they no a sick one!

I don't believe in church weddings can't have a priest tell me how to be in a relationship. I got married in a hotel and wouldn't change that. It was a woman who did it and she is married herself.

Iv had my son christened by my local priest but I know him most my life. My next child will be the same. I enter a church to respect people I know (weddings christenings etc) and people I knew (funerals) I'll let my kids decide this themselves.

anncoates

nicegirl wrote: »

I never want to!

Games up, everybody.

Best get divorced ASAP.

Legs.Eleven

Yeah there's all kinds of marriages. The religious argument is a bit outdated.

Synyster Shadow

I'd like to add a lot of people who marry in a church (money racket) do it for the older generations like grandparents and parents. I know plenty who have

T-K-O

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Ah! Now you're choosing to be less obtuse.



Marriage doesn't solidify those feelings.

There is some truth to this. Many people these days are spineless but many are not!

anncoates

Automatic guardianship of your kids is one bonus too.

upinthesky

Legs.Eleven wrote: »

Yeah there's all kinds of marriages. The religious argument is a bit outdated.

Oh yes I understand this was just venting a bit about certain kinds of people.

But as I said marriage does not change anything about a relationship and how much you love each, that's just my opinion, maybe its because i'm a fairly laid back person, maybe its a personality thing I don't know.

Legs.Eleven

anncoates wrote: »

Automatic guardianship of your kids is one bonus too.

That's been discussed and everyone's agreed it's a good reason.

Legs.Eleven

T-K-O wrote: »

There is some truth to this. Many people these days are spineless but many are not!

Could you give more detail? I don't know what angle you're coming from.

nicegirl

Synyster Shadow wrote: »

I'd like to add a lot of people who marry in a church (money racket) do it for the older generations like grandparents and parents. I know plenty who have

I don't understand why people spend an absolute fortune on their wedding day? Yes it is the most important and happiest day of your life, you want to celebrate your love to family and friends, but some people seriously go overboard with the cost of the entire thing. E20,000 to E30,000 on one day. You invite friends and family, but some people invite far out distant relatives, neighbours, people you don't really know at all and never see. I do not see the point in that whatsoever. I think some people put it all on for show. Waste of money, IMO