Oh oh. Trouble

B_Rabbit

OP What did you do??

ghogie91

THIS IS WORSE THAT A 'WE NEED TO TALK MESSAGE'

ZiabR

If this all turns out well OP, you are going to have to start making an effort with her. You said yourself that she is a great girl and that you dont tell her enough. Thats not really good enough. Make an effort, get her flowers, cook her dinner etc. Otherwise, next time around you may be packing your bags.

daheff

Dump her anyways...just coz you're off the hook doesnt mean she should be!

That'll learn her for texting you the "we need to talk" [EMAIL="cr@p"]cr@p[/EMAIL]

maguic24

carraig2 wrote: »

Funny, I was giving out about her too for the way she text but the more you guys give out about her the more i defend her. She really is a great girl

You're only saying that now, in case she looks at your computer and you left yourself signed into boards. :P

Penn

carraig2 wrote: »

Ok update. I rang her again.
I did do something. She found out. I didn't cheat on her but I did something I said I wouldn't

You blamed a fart on a dog, didn't you? She was always going to find out, man.

john the one

I smell a rat

neemish

Share with the whole group.... you're killing us here

travis1976

Hande hoche! wrote: »

Exactly we need to found a religion/ideology/etc. based on Wibbs.

Wibbtology....I'm there dude

maguic24

What did you do OP, come on we're all dying to know??!! Is she giving ya another chance? Or do you still have to have this big talk about it?

Tell us, cyber friends for life and all.

BBDBB

I bet he "friended" his ex on facebook

Wibbs

Ahhhhh hold the phone Ted, you did "something" she found out about? If you want to be a devious sonifabitch you can still brazen it out, but, you won't have a relationship anymore you'll have a situation where you'll be on guard forever.

carraig2 wrote: »

Sh** not often to be honest. Wibbs I take my hat off to you and I will follow your line. Think you have it just right.

Well put it this way, I'll bet the farm that in all her previous relationships where she did the "Dear John" speech that was not the reaction. You will be different and different is good.

FTA69 wrote: »

The honeymoon thing is b*llocks and will come to an end in ANY relationship,

True dat, but overwhelmingly ends or changes into something better/more lasting in the 2-4 year time period.

you may ask "what exactly is it that she wants???" etc.

The fact is she probably doesn't know herself. All she knows is that this isn't for her and that's her decision to make entirely.

True again. Unless it's a majorly obvious issue that sticks out like a blind cobblers thumb, then it's usually a buildup of small things that mesh together until a tipping point is reached and the feeling of "it's over" comes to the surface. Or think of a bucket. Imagine it filled with Luuurve and affection. Well the little things are like small leaks, the obvious like a big leak, sooner or later the water runs out if you don't both work to plug up the holes.. Or something. Mixed metaphors ahoy. :D

Hande hoche! wrote: »

Exactly we need to found a religion/ideology/etc. based on Wibbs.

Wibbatology. Like scientology without aliens in DC10s, but with hookers, gigolos, whiskey and poker. My paypal is...

*edit*

travis1976 wrote:

Wibbtology....I'm there dude

Get out of my head you psychic freak ya. :mad::pac:

PEACEBROTHER

carraig2 wrote: »

Ok update. I rang her again.
I did do something. She found out. I didn't cheat on her but I did something I said I wouldn't

I hope she dumps your secretive ass !

delta36

I've got it! He went on and watched the rest of House of Cards without her, even though he promised they'd watch it together.

loveisdivine

I'd say you did drugs, which she didn't want you to do. A lot of people get arsey about that kind of thing.

jinkybhoy

I'm going with gambling - judging by previous posts by OP.

Look while all you guys are guessing, I was doing some proper investigating - I'm not going to lie - this has consumed my afternoon and my boss is beginning to look suspicious.

josip

jinkybhoy wrote: »

I'm going with gambling - judging by previous posts by OP.

Look while all you guys are guessing, I was doing some proper investigating - I'm not going to lie - this has consumed my afternoon and my boss is beginning to look suspicious.

It's ok Jinky, I've been following it too.

Your boss.

jinkybhoy

josip wrote: »

It's ok Jinky, I've been following it too.

Your boss.

about that raise......

neemish

Listen, half the country has done nothing else all afternoon but follow this.

If it turns out the OP really is in the wrong, I fear for him.

jinkybhoy

Also a lot of betting slips in his refuse bin outside his house.

neemish

jinkybhoy wrote: »

Also a lot of betting slips in his refuse bin outside his house.

Have you been playing too much of Sherlock: the Network???

Jonny Blaze

It's gotta be porn..

jinkybhoy

neemish wrote: »

Have you been playing too much of Sherlock: the Network???

no but ill check that out! After this thread concludes.

I swore this wouldn't happen again after that damn safe thread!!!!

Mr Boom Boom

Fapping. It has to be fapping and not tending to her vageen.

jinkybhoy

she's home in 10 minutes - what's gonnae happen? The suspense...

Knex*

carraig2 wrote: »

Ok update. I rang her again.
I did do something. She found out. I didn't cheat on her but I did something I said I wouldn't

How have you still not learnt to clear your browsing history?

emmabrighton

woooo hooo its nearly quittin time... quick dash for the luas and Ill be home in time for "THE TALK"...

You are broadcasting it right?

whats your handle so I can be all set up with popcorn and whatnot come 6.30

delta36

Knex. wrote: »

How have you still not learnt to clear your browsing history?

jinkybhoy

emmabrighton wrote: »

woooo hooo its nearly quittin time... quick dash for the luas and Ill be home in time for "THE TALK"...

You are broadcasting it right?

whats your handle so I can be all set up with popcorn and whatnot come 6.30

Emma please...a bit of sensitivity at this time - OP needs to be considerate and have a really good talk with his GF...She's home at 5.30 - she will need at least an hour to get the food ready and clean up all the empty cans and used tissues before they can even begin to talk....6.40 is much more realistic a time for an update...

carraig2

Ok sorry was driving home. Yes someone guessed it.. For last six months or so was having a few bets. Got a bit out of hand. I always paid my bills, didn't think it was a huge issue but did borrow from a money lender before christmas. She was not happy, understandably. I told her I would close my account But I didn't tell her I had two and I lodged money in the shop so it wouldn't show on bank statements.

knarkypants

*makes myself comfortable and opens popcorn*

Good luck with the talk OP.

Gmol

carraig2 wrote: »

Ok sorry was driving home. Yes someone guessed it.. For last six months or so was having a few bets. Got a bit out of hand. I always paid my bills, didn't think it was a huge issue but did borrow from a money lender before christmas. She was not happy, understandably. I told her I would close my account But I didn't tell her I had two and I lodged money in the shop so it wouldn't show on bank statements.

Wibbs what should we do???

TJ Mackie

Edit: Made a gambling related joke. Turned out to be gambling as posted by OP while I was typing. I'm a jerk.

neemish

Gmol wrote: »

Wibbs what should we do???

lol. was just thinking the same thing. This is bigger than us plebs can handle

carraig2

Some mate of hers at work said she thought I had lost weight when she saw me coming out of betting shop. So now I either admit to whole thing or say it was one time bet.

I reckon honesty right?

PEACEBROTHER

throw 1000e on Man city tonight and buy her a present tomorrow from winnings

Maximus Alexander

carraig2 wrote: »

Ok sorry was driving home. Yes someone guessed it.. For last six months or so was having a few bets. Got a bit out of hand. I always paid my bills, didn't think it was a huge issue but did borrow from a money lender before christmas. She was not happy, understandably. I told her I would close my account But I didn't tell her I had two and I lodged money in the shop so it wouldn't show on bank statements.

Hope your fright today gives you the jolt to start looking in to some help with that addiction...

Hande hoche!

carraig2 wrote: »

Some mate of hers at work said she thought I had lost weight when she saw me coming out of betting shop. So now I either admit to whole thing or say it was one time bet.

I reckon honesty right?

Too late. Fake your own death.

carraig2

TJ Mackie wrote: »

Edit: Made a gambling related joke. Turned out to be gambling as posted by OP while I was typing. I'm a jerk.

Come on, it was still funny

carraig2

Maximus Alexander wrote: »

Hope your fright today gives you the jolt to start looking in to some help with that addiction...

I am not addicted

Knex*

carraig2 wrote: »

Some mate of hers at work said she thought I had lost weight when she saw me coming out of betting shop. So now I either admit to whole thing or say it was one time bet.

I reckon honesty right?

Yup... It'll all come out eventually anyway as it will play on her mind and she'll probe and probe.

No way is she believing the once off line.

delta36

carraig2 wrote: »

Some mate of hers at work said she thought I had lost weight when she saw me coming out of betting shop. So now I either admit to whole thing or say it was one time bet.

I reckon honesty right?

Sounds like you've been rumbled mate....

OR!

Propose to her, It'll distract her for a few years.

josip

Honesty, and tell her you think the only way you can overcome your habit is with her help.

Youzername

Put a bet on with your bookies to say you will still be together with the missus in 10/20/30/whatever years.

Put the slip in a box.

Get down on one knee.

Pray.

Sleepy

carraig2 wrote: »

I am not addicted

The first stage of acceptance is denial... If you're hiding it and having to go to moneylenders to finance it, it's an addiction.

youcancallmeal

carraig2 wrote: »

I am not addicted

Try this questionnaire out and report back

Wibbs

Gmol wrote: »

Wibbs what should we do???

Deny everything. Claim amnesia. Run. Run.

carraig2 wrote: »

I am not addicted

I can give up the *hic* drink at any time boss. You had a choice and opportunity to choose between relationship stability and putting a score on some walking dogfood with a besilked midget on it's back and chose the latter and worked at it(moneylender, second account, subterfuge). That's not such a good sign C2. Like hiding grog in the jax cistern.

If she caught you out then you're kinda boned. Only way back, if there is one, is to come clean(again) and this time show her the change you're attempting to make. Close the second account, tell all the story re moneylenders and such and hope for the best.

john the one

Now that I know what it is I'm not that interested anymore. The suspense has gone. Still, you could show her this thread

knarkypants

carraig2 wrote: »

Some mate of hers at work said she thought I had lost weight when she saw me coming out of betting shop. So now I either admit to whole thing or say it was one time bet.

I reckon honesty right?

Well if you want to stay with this girl then yes be honest.

On the other hand if you have no respect for her and really couldn't care less about her or your relationship then no, just lie your ass off and wait till she catches you again then dumps you.

You've lied already and have been caught. From your previous posts you seem to really care about her so tell her the truth, hope she forgives you and start making more effort in your relationship.

carraig2

Sleepy wrote: »

The first stage of acceptance is denial... If you're hiding it and having to go to moneylenders to finance it, it's an addiction.

I went to moneylenders to get money for xmas as did a lot of people.