What kind of parents piss you off?

Gongoozler

GrayFox208 wrote: »

Yeah you should let the babies stay in the dirty nappies. The only way I can not be abusive toward you is by telling myself no one's that stupid and you're just a troll. Reported.

You rascal you

Cienciano

The_Captain wrote: »

Childless people giving parenting advice :rolleyes:

In fairness, plenty of childless couples have a clue when it comes to kids. But yeah, you do get plenty of the opposite too, funny to read sometimes.
This one stand out for me:
http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=86332986&postcount=136
A few other posts in that thread too

Paddy Cow

EyeSight wrote: »

If it's a busy flight i like to get on early before all the overhead storage is full. But i see your point.

When the plane lands I am restless and my legs are cramped from sitting in a small area for so long. So i like to stand. Some people take forever to get ready and get off the plane so it's usually longer. Then if you're one of the last off the plane, the queue for customs and immigration can be very large.

Good points. I never thought of it like that. I don't think those reasons apply to everyone though and there seems to be some psychological need to be the first in the queue with some people

Paddy Cow

Parents who let their kids get sun burned or worse, think they look great with a tan. Put some sunscreen on them ffs :mad:

Flippyfloppy

This is probably gonna sound bad, and offend some people because it's a bit ridiculous of me, but parents who buy everything for their newborns in mute greys and tan colours from Mamas and Papas. They buy everything so colourless and bland and fluffy, and wrap their babies up preciously in soft fleece blankets. I thought being a baby is all about colours and fun.

homemadecider

Flippyfloppy wrote: »

I thought being a baby is all about colours and fun.

No, that's homosexuals you're thinking of.

harry Bailey esq

Paddy Cow wrote: »

Parents who let their kids get sun burned or worse, think they look great with a tan. Put some sunscreen on them ffs :mad:

+1000 this is very common. the Irish generally don't take the sun well. i go walking on gormanston beach every couple of days,and the amount of kids running around burnt to a crisp while the parents are with them is unbelievable.They just don't give two fcuks most of them,my son is ginger unfortunately,he gets half a bottle of factor 50 dumped over him at the first sign of good weather.

steddyeddy

Fiolina wrote: »

I hate seeing parents, particularly mothers who are "best mates" with their son/daughter. You know the kind of oul one who tries to relive her youth by going out clubbing with them and making a show of herself.

Ah that's cute though. I seen plenty of college mothers dress like their but in fairness some of them can pull it off.

Kaiser D

harry Bailey esq wrote: »

+1000 this is very common. the Irish generally don't take the sun well. i go walking on gormanston beach every couple of days,and the amount of kids running around burnt to a crisp while the parents are with them is unbelievable.They just don't give two fcuks most of them,my son is ginger unfortunately,he gets half a bottle of factor 50 dumped over him at the first sign of good weather.

:pac:

The_Captain

Paddy Cow wrote: »

I think the poster means changing the nappy in the open, rather than taking the child into the changing room.

That's great if there's changing rooms. If not, you'll have to do it in the open.

As a man, I've found that plenty of baby changing facilities are in the womens toilets, and there's nothing similar in the mens toilets.

MammaZita

The_Captain wrote: »

That's great if there's changing rooms. If not, you'll have to do it in the open.

As a man, I've found that plenty of baby changing facilities are in the womens toilets, and there's nothing similar in the mens toilets.

No you don't- that's absolutely disgusting!

There's generally a changing facility in the disabled toilets. Failing that you change the child in the toilets- ladies or gents.

The_Captain

MammaZita wrote: »

No you don't- that's absolutely disgusting!

There's generally a changing facility in the disabled toilets. Failing that you change the child in the toilets- ladies or gents.

No you dont, not when the all the mens toilets has is a sink, a toilet with no lid and piss on the floor.

Recondite49

steddyeddy wrote: »

Ah that's cute though. I seen plenty of college mothers dress like their but in fairness some of them can pull it off.

Three way?

dub_skav

MammaZita wrote: »

No you don't- that's absolutely disgusting!

There's generally a changing facility in the disabled toilets. Failing that you change the child in the toilets- ladies or gents.

Were they changing the child on your plate?
If not, there's more to be worried about in terms of hygiene, like the staffs' hands or their cleaning regimen (or lack thereof) in the out of sight places, like the kitchen and toilets

MammaZita

The_Captain wrote: »

No you dont, not when the all the mens toilets has is a sink, a toilet with no lid and piss on the floor.

Sounds like a filthy pub. Either way I'd question why you'd bring a small child to such a filthy premises?

eisenberg1

The_Captain wrote: »

No you dont, not when the all the mens toilets has is a sink, a toilet with no lid and piss on the floor.

If there is nowhere to change the child, I would suggest speak to management and ask to use the staff toilets..............and maybe take your business elsewhere in future. But tell me you don't change a childs nappy where there are other people dining???

MammaZita

dub_skav wrote: »

Were they changing the child on your plate?
If not, there's more to be worried about in terms of hygiene, like the staffs' hands or their cleaning regimen (or lack thereof) in the out of sight places, like the kitchen and toilets

Speaks volumes about the kind of places you frequent- urrghhh!

dub_skav

MammaZita wrote: »

Speaks volumes about the kind of places you frequent- urrghhh!

I personally would not change my child out in the open, but would not consider it "disgusting" if somebody did, no worse than somebody coughing or sneezing and not covering their mouths in terms of risk to my health

I eat and drink in plenty of salubrious establishments, but would not be naive enough to think that:
1 Management enforce rigorous cleaning standards and
2 Staff stick to them

takamichinoku

Farming parents. The sons have to be in farming and the daughters have to be primary school teachers.
The amount of old guys I know who are both bitter as hell about never being able to get away from their home area while simultaneously forcing their children into the exact same thing always bothers me.
Not too keen on family businesses in general, especially struggling ones, that whole "I've spent my whole life working hard at this to make a living for 50 years so that my son can spend his whole life working hard at this to make a living for 50 years so that his son can..." type nonsense you see on RTE the whole time.

Recondite49

takamichinoku wrote: »

Farming parents. The sons have to be in farming and the daughters have to be primary school teachers.
The amount of old guys I know who are both bitter as hell about never being able to get away from their home area while simultaneously forcing their children into the exact same thing always bothers me.
Not too keen on family businesses in general, especially struggling ones, that whole "I've spent my whole life working hard at this to make a living for 50 years so that my son can spend his whole life working hard at this to make a living for 50 years so that his son can..." type nonsense you see on RTE the whole time.

I agree the situation doesn't seem very healthy, even if traditionally that's been the way people have done things.

You wonder about what would happen if you were in a situation where your employer i.e your parents ever did something unreasonable like refuse to give you a pay rise in line with the cost of living or changed your contract arbitrarily.

Similarly for parents who had a poor son or daughter for an employee and are reluctant to fire them because it will cause bad blood, resulting in their little darling acting with impunity and pissing off their colleagues - I've been in that situation incidentally!

Recondite49

dub_skav wrote: »

I personally would not change my child out in the open, but would not consider it "disgusting" if somebody did, no worse than somebody coughing or sneezing and not covering their mouths in terms of risk to my health

I eat and drink in plenty of salubrious establishments, but would not be naive enough to think that:
1 Management enforce rigorous cleaning standards and
2 Staff stick to them

You're right dub, it's no big deal. Probably more hygienic to clean up the child and dispose of their nappy in any case.

Frigga_92

The ones who say "your tune will change when you have kids".

Aglomerado

Smug ones. "Ooh look at me I've passed my dubious genes onto yet another generation."
Who then proceed to regale you with tales of their little darling's latest escapades. And brag about how much they spend on them at birthdays and Christmas...FÚCKING YAWN.

eisenberg1

26sdrawkcab wrote: »

The ones who say "your tune will change when you have kids".

What is this magic tune they speak of?

I suspect there is no tune, cos when you have kids, you will be too fcuken tired to even whistle:D

Recondite49

I love my darling girl deeply but she always makes me tense when she discusses having kids.

Her sister has two children who are quite young (2 & 6) and she tells me the younger one a little girl, is a biter... She's also taken to calling her "Shane", a man's name which her older brother finds very amusing.

Both are extremely hyperactive and I'm not sure OH is doing them any favours by feeding them sweeties but those weekends she goes away to babysit and give her mother some much needed rest, she always comes back exhausted.

I've since suggested to her that should she feel any maternal urges in future, that she volunteer to babysit again.

Also worth noting that every time she offers to babysit her little sister virtually bites her hand off - it would seem the joys of parenthood are lost on her too. :-D

JanaMay

Ok, loads of things on this thread that I agree / disagree with, but just want to say my most recent experience of parents who piss me off:

Today at lunch we went to a pizza restaurant for the end of my eldest daughter's pre-school class. Let me preface by saying that my daughter is no angel, she's a typical child, but she almost always behaves well in restaurants. (If she doesn't either myself or my husband take her outside, people aren't there to listen to a screaming child).

Anyway, she was as good as gold, as she usually is in a restaurant, no problems with her behaviour. (If there had been, I'd have taken her aside). But that's not the point....

We were with 5 other couples who let their kids run wild. The kids were running through the restaurant, also in the terrace area. It was downright dangerous - not to mention annoying for other diners. My complaint is that the other parents (if I'm honest the other Mams) are always saying stuff like: 'My children are my life', 'I live for my children', 'My children are my reason for living - I'd do anything for them'. Anything except get your arse up off the restaurant seat and check on them!

These are the same parents who criticize me for having to go on at most 2 overnight business trips every 3 months!

ETA: the Manager even came over to tell the children to keep it down! I'd been trying to keep the children quiet before then, but I'd never give out to another parent's child. Mine was behaving well, the other parents were just sitting there watching me. I didn't know what to do, but when the manager gave out to them my daughter looked so ashamed. I could only keep telling her it wasn't her fault!

_Redzer_

Aglomerado wrote: »

Smug ones. "Ooh look at me I've passed my dubious genes onto yet another generation."
Who then proceed to regale you with tales of their little darling's latest escapades. And brag about how much they spend on them at birthdays and Christmas...FÚCKING YAWN.

Any animal can breed. That's what I don't get when some parents think it's a massive achievement and they must go on about their "big step" in starting a family.

You came in her without a condom. Good for you. It's the same for everyone who has kids.

eisenberg1

_Redzer_ wrote: »

Any animal can breed. That's what I don't get when some parents think it's a massive achievement and they must go on about their "big step" in starting a family.

You came in her without a condom. Good for you. It's the same for everyone who has kids.

Why, you old romantic with your fancy words:D

dub_skav

_Redzer_ wrote: »

Any animal can breed. That's what I don't get when some parents think it's a massive achievement and they must go on about their "big step" in starting a family.

You came in her without a condom. Good for you. It's the same for everyone who has kids.

To be fair, if you choose to start a family, then it is a big step, a true life changing decision.
No, it doesn't require a qualification or a grand plan to implement the decision, but it's a bigger step than deciding to buy your first car.

Aglomerado

eisenberg1 wrote: »

What is this magic tune they speak of?

I suspect there is no tune, cos when you have kids, you will be too fcuken tired to even whistle:D

Flute sonata?

IvyTheTerrible

The kind of dad that brings his 9 and 11 year old up Mont Blanc, and then films as they almost fall of the side of the mountain, and puts the footage on Youtube.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/worldnews/europe/france/10995805/Mont-Blanc-officials-condemn-stupidity-of-tourist-climbers-as-Irishman-falls-to-death.html

Gongoozler

When I feed pigeons in the park or wherever and a child comes over and runs them all off. Now, depending on the age of the child, it's excusable, but those **** parents who stand by and watch them, they are the devil. If you don't at some point tell your child that what they're doing is not nice, then you just are a **** parent.

dub_skav

Gongoozler wrote: »

When I feed pigeons in the park or wherever and a child comes over and runs them all off. Now, depending on the age of the child, it's excusable, but those **** parents who stand by and watch them, they are the devil. If you don't at some point tell your child that what they're doing is not nice, then you just are a **** parent.

What if the child is just attempting to teach you an economic lesson about saving your tuppence?

Recondite49

dub_skav wrote: »

What if the child is just attempting to teach you an economic lesson about saving your tuppence?

If the child truly were a budding Keynes, they would point out that tuppence a bag has been the staple price over the past century and has been considerably eroded by inflation rather than wave their arms around like a break dancing cockrel and terrorise the birds... :-D

Cyrus

Gongoozler wrote: »

When I feed pigeons in the park or wherever and a child comes over and runs them all off. Now, depending on the age of the child, it's excusable, but those **** parents who stand by and watch them, they are the devil. If you don't at some point tell your child that what they're doing is not nice, then you just are a **** parent.

feeding pigeons isnt considered the thing to do by some people either....

_Redzer_

dub_skav wrote: »

To be fair, if you choose to start a family, then it is a big step, a true life changing decision.
No, it doesn't require a qualification or a grand plan to implement the decision, but it's a bigger step than deciding to buy your first car.

I don't disagree, but I'm referring to that annoying niche of parents you meet who go on like; "I had a child. I started a family. It was so tough, but I still did it".

Yeah, ok. I could start a family too. I'd probably have fun doing it as well considering I wouldn't have to bother wearing a condom. Just the act of creating a child is not a big deal. The big deal and achievement is raising decent kids.

dub_skav

_Redzer_ wrote: »

I don't disagree, but I'm referring to that annoying niche of parents you meet who go on like; "I had a child. I started a family. It was so tough, but I still did it".

Yeah, ok. I could start a family too. I'd probably have fun doing it as well considering I wouldn't have to bother wearing a condom. Just the act of creating a child is not a big deal. The big deal and achievement is raising decent kids.

OK, fair enough so. I agree, the act of becoming a parent is not difficult, being a good parent is.

As a result, this next bit is not aimed at you.

I am tired of the many posters on here who complain about parents talking about their kids or showing photos or whatever. Their complaining itself becomes just as tiresome.
OK, so some people are bores and ramble on about tedious stuff, the kids just happen to be one of the things these tedious bores talk about, before they had kids it was their flooring or their holiday plans.
Boring people are boring, don't tar all parents with that.

Raising young kids takes up a lot of your time, so it is natural to mention them from time to time, would you rather large gaps in conversation because they have nothing non-parenting related to say at this particular juncture?
Again, this defense does not apply to the bores who talk your ear off about nothing else but their kids. But, if you're allowed to mention your shopping trip, meal out, night out, DIY, house hunting, car troubles etc, then cut the parents a bit of slack.

Gongoozler

Cyrus wrote: »

feeding pigeons isnt considered the thing to do by some people either....

Yeah but there's no need to be cruel to them. Or disturb someone else doing it.

The_Captain

Gongoozler wrote: »

When I feed pigeons in the park or wherever and a child comes over and runs them all off. Now, depending on the age of the child, it's excusable, but those **** parents who stand by and watch them, they are the devil. If you don't at some point tell your child that what they're doing is not nice, then you just are a **** parent.

Disease spreading skyrats

zcorpian88

Young lone parents that do not and will not work that use their kids as an excuse to get their house for half nothing because of rent allowance and aren't really lone parents when A LOT sneak their partner and/or extra tenants into the house, while young single people that are unemployed and dying to work are stuck living at home and scarping by. Pisses me off seeing people in my area having plenty of money to have their hair and nails done followed by a night on the lash while the man of the house has a souped up car outside the door and none of them working. Rightly pisses me off when I see in my Facebook news feed that some friend of mine liked a status about some f**king bimbo who I know to be a bimbo collects the keys to her new house when I'm stuck living at home.

Parents that teach their kid vulgarity in the form of swearing and sticking up their middle finger at people.

Parents that say "Behave now or the man will come and give out to you" while pointing at me or other people while waiting in a doctors waiting room or a queue.

Parents that put pressure on their kids around exam time, leave them the f**k alone! They've got enough going on without parents making their lives a misery. My folks didn't do this at all, mine just said "do your best"

Parents that just plonk their kid in front of anything on the tv, like Family Guy or South Park. I know people that let their 4 year old daughter watch Family Guy. WTF! It's not like the Simpsons folks it's not appropriate in lots of places. Whatever happened to Sesame Street, Postman Pat and Bear in the Big Blue House for a 4 year old? Parents have to be hip on what's animated for adults and what's animated for children.

anotherposter

Jake1 wrote: »

certifiedcrepe wrote: »

I was reading the "Kids playing outside - how late is generally considered reasonable" thread and it got me thinking about one of my neighbours.

A neighbour of mine has a 4 year old son. He is allowed out at all hours, just last night I was driving home after midnight and he was riding his bike up and down the road, it was near impossible to see him. His parents were nowhere to be seen. I'm not one to get involved but if anything happened him it would've been on my conscience so I knocked on his house and his mother answered and said "oh he'll be fine thanks he knows not to go near any cars on the road" and then went on to tell me I'll make a great mother because I'm so observant. Really?!

She did well having you knock kindly on the door. Id have called the police, over and over if I had to, till they got there. A four year old out after midnight , alone in the dark??
She should have gotten a kitten, instead of pregnant.

you dont get child welfare allowance for a kitten

amdublin

When I was at school I hated the parents who came up to give out to the teacher about what another child did or didn't do to their child.

I was like (at the wise old age of 7) "dude let you kid fight their own battles".

And even worse the ones who actually said it to the other kid "don't you be bullying my little sarah).
I was like "eh, look at the big size of you, who's bullying who now?"
(Again at the wise old age of 7)

Gongoozler

The_Captain wrote: »

Disease spreading skyrats

Original. When was the last time you heard of a person getting a disease from a pigeon?

Galwayguy35

Parents who let their kid be unkind to animals.

I saw it one day outside a hotel I was staying in, a cat was coming up to people looking to be rubbed, when this little fooker gives it a kick, mammy and daddy look on and say nothing.

Lisha

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Parents who let their kid be unkind to animals.

I saw it one day outside a hotel I was staying in, a cat was coming up to people looking to be rubbed, when this little fooker gives it a kick, mammy and daddy look on and say nothing.

Sadly I think that's more a case of parents teaching the child how to be cruel

pq0n1ct4ve8zf5

Galwayguy35 wrote: »

Parents who let their kid be unkind to animals.

I saw it one day outside a hotel I was staying in, a cat was coming up to people looking to be rubbed, when this little fooker gives it a kick, mammy and daddy look on and say nothing.

They get a fit of being very observant if the child gets scratched though :mad: not the poor animal's fault

groucho marx

I have one child,take photos everyday,talk to her in shops even though she cant speak yet,all that annoying stuff. my business,seems to be a lot of bitter people about other peoples kids. So bizarre.

zcorpian88

A new one:

My next door neighbours, couple on rent allowance, neither work or intend on it, two kids.

Overheard the child's mother in her back garden, she says to her young lad "That's it you're not getting that motorbike off Santy"

ITS JULY!!

I need to move!

Recondite49

zcorpian88 wrote: »

A new one:

My next door neighbours, couple on rent allowance, neither work or intend on it, two kids.

Overheard the child's mother in her back garden, she says to her young lad "That's it you're not getting that motorbike off Santy"

ITS JULY!!

I need to move!

How do we know this isn't a second hand moped being donated by a better off family friend or relative?

chellyry

I used to think a lot of these things too before I actually had a kid. And a lot of you will think differently when you have your own kids too (not meant defensively, just stating a fact). My boy isn't spoiled and I do my very best to discipline him but he is just too smart and has an answer for everything.

I stopped swearing around him in the first few months after he was born because I didn't want him to know the meaning of the words. But no matter how hard I tried I couldn't stop extended family members from holding their tongues while they're around him, or I couldn't always predict when a bad word would be said on the television, or when strangers on the street would roar them. And my son now swears frequently and laughs hysterically when I try to discipline him.

He refuses to hold my hand in public so I look like a terrible mother who has to cling to her kicking and screaming child's arm who is roaring for a toy/treat that I won't buy him because I don't want him to think that I will give in to all of his tantrums.

He is just one of those hyperactive kids with unlimited energy (for a child that is only allowed one sweet a week) that puts up a battle for absolutely everything because he enjoys it. It amuses him.

Basically what I'm trying to say is that some kids will not be disciplined no matter how good/bad the parent is. Some kids are little tearaways and they will annoy you in shops/restaurants/trains etc. But you can be rest assured they are annoying the exhausted parent ten times more, and onlookers dirty looks and snide comments don't do anything but encourage the child more and exasperate the poor exhausted parent even more.

Rant over!