How to deal with people talking over you?

markesmith · 05-03-2009 04:29PM #1

Rrrrrright, I know a few people that, if you're talking, sometimes break into speech while you're mid-sentence. Initially, I would politely demure and stop my anecdote/gossip/sh1te-talk. I found it kind of funny (still do). Now I just keep talking, finish my sentence, then say "Sorry I didn't hear what you just said, I was talking myself at the time."

Anyone know any better ways of shutting people up? And let's try not to use the 'R' word - we all know what it is :pac:

Biggins · 05-03-2009 04:31PM

I tell them out straight "If your that ignorant not to listen also to what I'm saying also, your not worth my time - bye!"
...and I walk off. Done it loads of times. Fcuk them!

Whispered · 05-03-2009 04:32PM

I sometimes have a terrible habit of doing this. I will usually catch myself as I'm doing it, stop and apologise. It's a terrible habit.

Although I usually only do it when I'm drunk or if speaking to very uninteresting people. Are you uninteresting markesmith?

markesmith · 05-03-2009 04:35PM

helena.ryan wrote: »

Although I usually only do it when I'm drunk or if speaking to very uninteresting people. Are you uninteresting markesmith?

Judging by the rest of my posts here, I'd say certainly.

But that's beside the point. I need ammunition!

Smart Bug · 05-03-2009 04:35PM

Say something like:

"What the f*ck? are you f*cking talking over me you f*ckwitted slouch backed c*nt faced f*ck bucket? who the f*ck calved it and made you the the f*ckin dog's b*llocks of conver-f*cking-sations, you f*ckwidget? shut the f*ck up or I'll rip your f*cking tongue out and stick it down a hures knickers, f*ckbutton."

Then smile & continue on with your waffle.

Wagon · 05-03-2009 04:36PM

If you get interrupted by some bird, just stare at her boobs very obviously. And when she goes "eh...EXCUSE ME?!" say, "no problem, just dont do it again" and then carry on finishing what you were talking about.

Biggins · 05-03-2009 04:37PM

Smart Bug wrote: »

Say something like:

"What the f*ck? are you f*cking talking over me you f*ckwitted slouch backed c*nt faced f*ck bucket? who the f*ck calved it and made you the the f*ckin dog's b*llocks of conver-f*cking-sations, you f*ckwidget? shut the f*ck up or I'll rip your f*cking tongue out and stick it down a hures knickers, f*ckbutton."

Then smile & continue on with your waffle.

Seriously - thats no way to talk to your little sister!

Kiera · 05-03-2009 04:37PM

I usually just stick my fingers in my ears and shout lalalalalalalalala until they shut up.

Biggins · 05-03-2009 04:42PM

Kiera wrote: »

I usually just stick my fingers in my ears and shout lalalalalalalalala until they shut up.

Tinkewinke - is that you?

Earthhorse · 05-03-2009 04:42PM

Wagon wrote: »

If you get interrupted by some bird, just stare at her boobs very obviously. And when she goes "eh...EXCUSE ME?!" say, "no problem, just dont do it again" and then carry on finishing what you were talking about.

Doesn't work over the phone.

jim o doom · 05-03-2009 04:43PM

I've a chronically loud voice - so I just up the volume and continue talking. If the "interrupter" get's annoyed I laugh in their face - it's only as rude as what they've done

Also if it's a session and people are drunk, just shout a bit louder than whoevers talking over you - I mean shout because most times locked, especially in a pub, yer probably nearly shouting anyway to be heard

Brian_Uckfast · 05-03-2009 04:45PM

It could always depend on the importance of whatever you are saying. You should measure it up in your mind, and if that person has something better to say, bow out of the conversation gracefully and let him/her have their say

Wagon · 05-03-2009 04:46PM

Earthhorse wrote: »

Doesn't work over the phone.

Start breating like a pedophine in a barney suit and making filthy letcherous noises. If you ever watched Monkey Dust, sort like like the pedophine at the PC in that. This works. I was talking to my cousin the other night about losing my job at the end of this month and he started talking over me about something he did that day. 10 seconds of those disturbing sounds put him in his place. I know he's only 6 but it's never too young to learn.

UrbanSea · 05-03-2009 04:51PM

markesmith wrote: »

Anyone know any better ways of shutting people up? And let's try not to use the 'R' word - we all know what it is :pac:

Is it just me that doesnt know of this 'r' word?:(

Kiera · 05-03-2009 04:55PM

greetings wrote: »

Is it just me that doesnt know of this 'r' word?:(

Johnny Ross would call is a wee-session....

Any ideas?

UrbanSea · 05-03-2009 04:56PM

Kiera wrote: »

Johnny Ross would call is a wee-session....

Any ideas?

I can see clearly now the rain has gone.:cool:

OldGoat · 05-03-2009 05:01PM

markesmith wrote: »

Anyone know any better ways of shutting people up?

TALK LOUDER

Mal-Adjusted · 05-03-2009 05:08PM

Brian_Uckfast wrote: »

It could always depend on the importance of whatever you are saying. You should measure it up in your mind, and if that person has something better to say, bow out of the conversation gracefully and let him/her have their say

that's utter Bol***ks. by that logic, only one person could ever talk.
If someone interrupts me, i'll politley call them o it there and then, unles they're keeping it short & sweet. i have no problem with someone interrupting me as long as they're not going to start with a story of their own.

Guru Maith Agut · 05-03-2009 05:15PM

Doh!

Guru Maith Agut · 05-03-2009 05:15PM

:Scratches fingernails down blackboard: :cool:

05-03-2009 05:28PM

Wagon wrote: »

Start breating like a pedophine in a barney suit and making filthy letcherous noises. If you ever watched Monkey Dust, sort like like the pedophine at the PC in that. This works. I was talking to my cousin the other night about losing my job at the end of this month and he started talking over me about something he did that day. 10 seconds of those disturbing sounds put him in his place. I know he's only 6 but it's never too young to learn.

What on this green earth is a "pedophine"?

Overheal · 05-03-2009 05:58PM

You guys would HATE watching Fox News.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhwwbNA3hjg

They are so much more civil on CNN

Jumpy · 05-03-2009 06:02PM

She is one hot redneck.

BroomBurner · 05-03-2009 06:11PM

Nothing stops talking like a nob in the mouth.

If over the phone, just whistle, really high pitched until they stop, or their ears bleed.

Sam Vimes · 05-03-2009 06:19PM

Overheal wrote: »

You guys would HATE watching Fox News.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhwwbNA3hjg

They are so much more civil on CNN

I've seen it on the daily show and I already do.

In advance of obama's train journey across the country to be inaugurated they also pointed out every step along the way where terrorists might want to blow him up, eg a chemical plant and one of those really long old bridges. Nice of them

JohnGalt · 05-03-2009 06:20PM

When you do this to me I give you no reason to think that you have caused me an affront. I stop my sentence, and smile back at you, my eyes mere slivers of silver. My almost magnanimous expression betrays nothing of the fierce calculations which are now speeding through the labyrinths of my mind. The conversation ends, but that for me is only the beginning. Cut to that night. I am standing in the ink darkness of your back garden, wearing nothing but a pair of ragged jeans and a balaclava. In my hand the sharpest of blades, mirroring the serene moonlight and the ghost white skin of my svelte torso. I am examining the smooth contours of your face as it is illuminated by the computer screen. Tightly I grip the knife as I step forward, the dew cold against my bare feet. As silent as a falling feather I seep through the darkness like some cursed miasma. You see me, but the dance has already begun. The whites of your eyes thrill me. The purity of the terror they convey could not be reached by a thousand volumes of Shakespeare. I burst through the door, rabid like the hounds of hell, and take you in my arms. You writhe and twitch, but all I see is rose petals, all I hear is the third movement of Beethoven's 14th sonata. And then I am gone. They will find you in the morning, but not all of you. And that dusty drawer at the bottom of my desk has a new guest. Now when I think back to that day when you spoke too soon, all I need do is open that drawer and see for certain that your lips are sealed...

Abi · 05-03-2009 06:25PM

I know too many people that do this, and it is so rude.

So depending on the offender they may get a "Shut the fúck up, and dont speak over me again" or a recently used one was on a family member was "Right. Im off, since this is a one-sided conversation. Gimme a shout when I can fúcking join in"
/walks off

On the otherhand, conversations with myself are a toughie. I never know which one started it.

.>.>

Overheal · 05-03-2009 06:28PM

Sam Vimes wrote: »

I've seen it on the daily show and I already do.

In advance of obama's train journey across the country to be inaugurated they also pointed out every step along the way where terrorists might want to blow him up, eg a chemical plant and one of those really long old bridges. Nice of them

So Fox News is coordinating with terrorists! Well tut tut!

m5ex9oqjawdg2i · 05-03-2009 06:35PM

Overheal wrote: »

You guys would HATE watching Fox News.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhwwbNA3hjg

They are so much more civil on CNN

Thanks for that overheal, it made me lol...

I do this from time to time, it's mainly because I forget things really easily. I have one mate, that everyone comments on. As he has this massive voice. When he speaks and someone else speaks he just uses his voice and makes everyones ears bleed :P It is not the person butting in that gets the guff, it's him. I think it's hilarious :P

javaboy · 05-03-2009 06:38PM

What's really irritating is if you're trying to tell a joke or make a witty observation and someone interrupts you. If you do tell them to STFU, you feel really awkward and stupid finishing what you were saying.

Serial interrupters should be fined.

steo87 · 05-03-2009 07:13PM

greetings wrote: »

Is it just me that doesnt know of this 'r' word?:(

It rhymes with Shmeshmeshion. Or would it be the one that rhymes with grape?

steo87 · 05-03-2009 07:14PM

bluewolf wrote: »

What on this green earth is a "pedophine"?

The new word for paedophile......pedophine ftw!

Abi · 05-03-2009 07:48PM

javaboy wrote: »

If you do tell them to STFU, you feel really awkward and stupid finishing what you were saying.

You shouldnt allow anyone make you feel that way, when it was they that were rude by over-talking you.

When people do that, they believe what they have to say is more important than what you have to say. Bear that in mind when it happens again.

You have to love the ones that claim 'they will forget unless they tell you right now'.

I tell them ones - 'dont worry, it will keep.

metaoblivia · 05-03-2009 08:20PM

It's weird, but I haven't had too many people try to talk over me. It's only weird I guess because I speak softly and calmly and don't say much to begin with, so I figure I'd be a prime target of this kind of behavior.
One time though, I was at a restaurant with a friend, and she brought along two of her guy friends. I was telling a story or something and one of the guys just bluntly cut me off and started saying something else. I returned the favor and said in my soft, calm manner, "I'm sorry, but I was talking and you just interrupted me." The guy looked like I just socked him in the face. He just sat there with his mouth open for a few moments and then said, "I did interrupt you, I'm sorry..." and trailed off. So I accepted his apology and went on with my story.
So I guess if it happens in the future, that would be my approach.

markesmith · 05-03-2009 08:20PM

When my two mates are together like that, I just keep my mouth shut. You try getting involved in the conversation, but they're talking left right and centre. After a bit, you just think "Ah to hell with it, let them talk".

I find it funny with the two lads, but no-one else does that to me. Don't know if they do it to anyone else.

Overheal · 05-03-2009 08:21PM

Khalil Deafening Misogynist wrote: »

Thanks for that overheal, it made me lol...

At the same time the last 60 seconds of that video make me think theres a little humanity left in O'Reilly.

javaboy · 05-03-2009 08:36PM

Overheal wrote: »

At the same time the last 60 seconds of that video make me think theres a little humanity left in O'Reilly.

Or that a lot of it is for show and he can turn it on and off like a tap. Although he couldn't help getting in a sly dig about the viewers deciding he was right.

Overheal · 05-03-2009 08:38PM

javaboy wrote: »

Or that a lot of it is for show and he can turn it on and off like a tap.

He is Television's most talented liar after all.

Jumpy · 05-03-2009 10:21PM

They were both right. Why were they even arguing?

Sam Vimes · 05-03-2009 11:01PM

Overheal wrote: »

So Fox News is coordinating with terrorists! Well tut tut!

The funny thing is they actually are.

The same episode of the daily show also had a clip from Rush Limbaugh saying he hopes Obama fails as president and then cut to a clip from him two years ago where he described anyone who said the same thing about Bush as a traitor. I love fox, it angries up the blood

January · 05-03-2009 11:31PM

javaboy wrote: »

What's really irritating is if you're trying to tell a joke or make a witty observation and someone interrupts you. If you do tell them to STFU, you feel really awkward and stupid finishing what you were saying.

Serial interrupters should be fined.

If someone does that to me I always say "you're interrupting me" and then when/if they say "oh sorry, go on", I say "no, it's alright, you obviously think that what I had to say before wasn't important so why should I say it now?" and walk away... it's usually my mam or my sister though... they do it all the time...

tony1kenobi · 05-03-2009 11:38PM

Yawn in their face....it works in almost every situation......except court.

Abi · 05-03-2009 11:41PM

adrieanne__x wrote: »

If someone does that to me I always say "you're interrupting me" and then when/if they say "oh sorry, go on", I say "no, it's alright, you obviously think that what I had to say before wasn't important so why should I say it now?" and walk away... it's usually my mam or my sister though... they do it all the time...

Thats like a carbon copy of my post, with less evil / insane.

We must liquid-lunch.

Mal-Adjusted · 06-03-2009 01:17AM

Stab them in the eye!;) that'll learn 'em!

Scarinae · 06-03-2009 02:06AM

Overheal wrote: »

You guys would HATE watching Fox News.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FhwwbNA3hjg

They are so much more civil on CNN

Haha check out the embarrassed laugh at 4:46 when they realise they have a minute left!!

The girl I live with is horrendous for interrupting people. Usually I let it pass, but if I'm in a bad mood I will just keep talking and speak louder. She doesn't give in easily, this sometimes continues for over a minute, with both of us still talking angrily cos neither of us will back down.
It does my boyfriend's head in though! He is quite quiet and polite, and doesn't believe in talking shite for the sake of it. So if he's talking, people usually listen cos it's worth hearing. My flatmate cuts over him the whole time though, so he doesn't bother talking to her anymore. She says things like "Gosh, he's very quiet!" and I say that maybe if she didn't butt in the whole time he'd actually talk to her. Her response was "Ah, but he should be used to me by now!" (in reality, he won't come near the apartment if she's there, not that I'm going to tell her that)

Sputnik101 · 06-03-2009 02:09AM

Wagon wrote: »

If you get interrupted by some bird, just stare at her boobs very obviously. And when she goes "eh...EXCUSE ME?!" say, "no problem, just dont do it again" and then carry on finishing what you were talking about.

lol loving it!

I'd just talk louder although that could lead to a shouting match! Funny times!

Professey Chin · 06-03-2009 02:11AM

Stab them right in the ear with a mini trident

matrim · 06-03-2009 08:40AM

greetings wrote: »

Is it just me that doesnt know of this 'r' word?:(

I think he means rophynol. That would shut them up

Mossy Monk · 06-03-2009 08:45AM

I would leave the room

Gordon · 06-03-2009 08:52AM

Sometimes it's a good trick to lower the tone and pace of your speech to be a bit more clear and directed. This changes the atmosphere of the conversation and the overtalker will be tripped up and will want to listen to you to hear what your change in tone means. Use the trick sparingly though as they will catch on to what you're doing and then ignore your voice changes. It's usually best to use this while actually making a clearer point that cuts to the heart of what you are talking about better than what you were saying previously, so that it rams your point home quicker and better.

If that doesn't work then stab them in the eye, yeah, overtalkers piss me off.

Wagon · 06-03-2009 09:44AM

bluewolf wrote: »

What on this green earth is a "pedophine"?

A plant.

How to deal with people talking over you?

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