Do guys like quiet girls?

Don't mean to give a knock to the confidence but you're asking a general question in relation to your specific situation. Your question should be "do guys like my friend better than me?" and it appears that in general, yes they do. It most likely has nothing to do with her being quiet unfortunately.

[quote=[Deleted User];62929557]In my experience, a certain type of guy likes quiet girls. The more controlling type, who like to get things their own way and don't want to be 'answered back'. Yes, it's a generalisation but something I've noticed. Some guys are put off by a woman who has opinions and speaks her mind.[/quote]
That goes both ways. There are just as many controlling women as controlling men. And that doesn't have to be the reason that a lad would like a quiet girl. He might just consider her more considered in her views because she doesn't assert them so vehemently and dogmatically, and hence is more pragmatic, but no less opinionated. But he may still love her underlying assertiveness and self-confidence. I fell in love with a girl a few years ago like that. She seemed so shy and quiet, but when you spoke to her you could tell that she was a rock at heart. And often the most blusterous and opinionated women are the most insecure and dependant at heart. It can go either way though, and maybe as a rash generalisation your right. But you won't get very far with people if you jump those conclusions from their demeanours.

Scarymoon, I didn't mean that at all, if your question was directed at me. If you read my post properly you'll see that I said lads like all different kinds of girls. If you're bitter about your friend getting more attention then all I can say is: Get over it!!! Fellas like who they like, and while they usually don't expect women to change, we don't apologise for our tastes. I'm starting to think I'd most likely like your friend better now tbh. My mates get more attention than me because they are easier to have a laugh with in the pub. Does that make me bitter? Well slightly, on my worst days, but thats out of loneliness. I just am not like them. I don't know how to have banter with women. Should I ask you to change your tastes so as to appreciate a more serious guy with a taste for politics and philosophy in the pub? Fcuk NO! Women want to have a laugh, and I don't expect them to change that fact for my sake. All I can do is try to lighten up, and maybe you should lighten up also, and stop feeling entitled to the attention your friend gets.

(I don't talk about philosophy in the pub, actually. I like talkin' politics though. But you don't lead into a conversation with a girl at the bar with: "so do you think they'll end up nationalising the banks?")

scarymoon1 wrote: »

so maybe if i speak softly and look vulnerable Il get guys asking me out more????

concentrate on being yourself as opposed to obsessing over why others get asked out.

if you are naturally bubbly and chatty like I am (im a guy) its almost impossible to change that. and why should you?? its a very desirable feature in someone.

is the real issue here, why dont you have a boyfriend op?

Jealousy is probably the biggest turn off in a girl so it's hardly surprising guys avoid you like syphilis. Work on that and it might help you get dates.

scarymoon1 wrote: »

I don't think guys can tell Im jealous by looking at me!!!!!

From your OP...

scarymoon1 wrote: »

ok i have a friend and she is fairly quiet. Talks to a whisper kind. Nice girl though - wouldn't say boo to a goose. Well for as long as I know her she has ALWAYS had a boyfriend. She dumped her ex last week and already has a date next week with another guy. When out with her and say for example we meet people to chat to I usually have to initiate the talk yet she's the one that ends up with the date!! In no way am I pushy - just friendly. So my question - do guys prefer the really quiet girls?

Which is it? I got the impression that you chat to the lads but at the end they drift towards her and would rather go on a date with her then you.

scarymoon1 wrote: »

well i guess in future i should look and act like a puppy and they might drift over to me right? She doesnt say much so maybe the guys she meet are controlling!

Or maybe after 5 minutes of talking to you the appeall of girl who rarely speaks suddenly becomes a massive attraction? I mean unless it's just been a big massive conciedence that most guys you end chatting to are the controlling ones( I think that's BS anyway tbh) then I'd maybe spent a bit more time looking at yourself as to why you can't get a date when your friend has no problems at all. Specially if this has been the same situation for awhile.