Wedding invites that doesn't invite a single person with a partner

TheDriver · 06-09-2011 05:57PM #1

I was wondering the other day about this, why do people invite someone without a partner/friend, always seems it should be up to the person themselves if they want to bring someone?

Andromeda_111 · 06-09-2011 06:00PM

Cheapskates, one less dinner to buy.
I personally wouldn't go to a wedding on my own.....maybe they hope for that reaction so there would be 2 less dinners to pay for.

jester77 · 06-09-2011 06:00PM

TheDriver wrote: »

I was wondering the other day about this, why do people invite someone without a partner/friend, always seems it should be up to the person themselves if they want to bring someone?

Why should it ever be up to the person? The person should be grateful that they were invited to share the day with them.

TheZohanS · 06-09-2011 06:01PM

Recession and wanting to keep costs down.

stovelid · 06-09-2011 06:01PM

Maybe it's to avoid the presumptuousness of being seen to a) imply that somebody can't go to a wedding without a partner b) stigmatizing their singleness by suggesting the "antidote" of a partner for the wedding

DjFlin · 06-09-2011 06:03PM

To save money.

I've never had a problem like that. If someone you know is getting married, and your invited, your probably going to know a few other people there anyway.

hondasam · 06-09-2011 06:03PM

Why do single people feel they have to bring someone. It's ok to go on your own.

06-09-2011 06:05PM

TheDriver wrote: »

I was wondering the other day about this, why do people invite someone without a partner/friend, always seems it should be up to the person themselves if they want to bring someone?

Why would the couple want a possible stranger at their wedding?

I know I wouldn't.

TheDriver · 06-09-2011 06:06PM

but is it up to you that someone must come on their own? I find it insulting if I was invited on my own unless i knew a lot of people at it. If its to keep costs down, then shouldn't the wedding be smaller anyways?

DjFlin · 06-09-2011 06:09PM

TheDriver wrote: »

but is it up to you that someone must come on their own? I find it insulting if I was invited on my own unless i knew a lot of people at it.

Unless you're the bride/groom, you dont get jack spit. Just sit there and look happy. Its their special day.

hondasam · 06-09-2011 06:11PM

TheDriver wrote: »

but is it up to you that someone must come on their own? I find it insulting if I was invited on my own unless i knew a lot of people at it. If its to keep costs down, then shouldn't the wedding be smaller anyways?

why would you want to bring someone to a wedding where they would not know anyone.
If you knew people going you would have a better time on your own.

Gummy Panda · 06-09-2011 06:11PM

I've gone to weddings on my own

Forever alone

kelle · 06-09-2011 06:15PM

At my wedding, only cousins/friends who were engaged or married were invited with their partner - otherwise there would have been far too many there and I would still be paying for it!

I'm going to a wedding on my own soon and I'm damn well looking forward to it (it's abroad!)

Alter-Ego · 06-09-2011 06:15PM

Roll up like a lone wolf. Ride a bridesmaid.

Mickeroo · 06-09-2011 06:17PM

If they know the person is single and they know there'll be plenty of people the person will know at the wedding then its fair enough imo.

Jess16 · 06-09-2011 06:17PM

jester77 wrote: »

The person should be grateful that they were invited to share the day with them.

Grateful -to go to someone else's wedding? Happy yes but grateful?
Not unless your self-esteem is on the floor. Most people have lives of their own happening you know

The Saint · 06-09-2011 06:23PM

As has been said, why the hell would the bride and groom want to send out a token invitation for a +1 to someone they know is single? It increases the cost for having someone you don't know at your own wedding. Fcuk that.

I've been to a number of weddings of friends and family on my own and would have hated to have to babysit a +1 that no one knew. Plus, weddings aren't bad places to hook up.

Mint Sauce · 06-09-2011 06:27PM

Weddings are a great place to pull.

The Saint · 06-09-2011 06:30PM

irish-stew wrote: »

Weddings are a great place to pull.

I remember two friends of mine were getting married and I was there when they were doing out the seating plans for the dinner. I was single at the time so I got the bride to be to put me at a table with a bunch of her single friends. She obliged and there was some hookage. Certainly wouldn't have happened if I had brought a token date.

u_c_thesecond · 06-09-2011 06:37PM

im getting married and i have a similar situation where as my sisters dating a man 3 months and wants him to come- ive never met him in my life and wont till my wedding day so i said no- and shes throwing a fit!

06-09-2011 06:39PM

The Saint wrote: »

As has been said, why the hell would the bride and groom want to send out a token invitation for a +1 to someone they know is single? It increases the cost for having someone you don't know at your own wedding. Fcuk that.

I've been to a number of weddings of friends and family on my own and would have hated to have to babysit a +1 that no one knew. Plus, weddings aren't bad places to hook up.

You would want to be a scabby git to send a single invite to your wedding to someone, it should always allow for a guest.

They are going to be spending more money on on the gift alone than it costs to host them at the wedding add in drink accommodation etc and its not in someone's financial interests to attend a wedding.

The Saint · 06-09-2011 06:41PM

Makayla Jolly Banister wrote: »

You would want to be a scabby git to send a single invite to your wedding to someone, it should always allow for a guest.

They are going to be spending more money on on the gift alone than it costs to host them at the wedding add in drink accommodation etc and its not in someone's financial interests to attend a wedding.

I wasn't aware that it was a business venture to attend a friend/family members wedding.

06-09-2011 06:46PM

The Saint wrote: »

I wasn't aware that it was a business venture to attend a friend/family members wedding.

The cost to the couple to host a person will 99% always be lower than the cost of the person to attend.

Do you know what venture means, I dont think so?

Its simple household finance, its an insult imo to send out an invite for one person alone. The person may not bring someone but its common courtesy to offer.

The Saint · 06-09-2011 06:49PM

Makayla Jolly Banister wrote: »

The cost to the couple to host a person will 99% always be lower than the cost of the person to attend.

Do you know what venture means, I dont think so?

Its simple household finance.

Perhaps I should have said that most people don't do a cost benefit analysis when they are considering attending a wedding. If money is an issue then don't go. Anyway, it is the wedding day of the couple getting married so they should be able to determine who they want to have or not have at their wedding.

Sound Bite · 06-09-2011 06:54PM

Because it's their wedding, their choice and their expense.

If you don't like the invite or going alone, then just don't go. Simple

06-09-2011 06:54PM

The Saint wrote: »

Perhaps I should have said that most people don't do a cost benefit analysis when they are considering attending a wedding. If money is an issue then don't go. Anyway, it is the wedding day of the couple getting married so they should be able to determine who they want to have or not have at their wedding.

Of course they can but its stingy as ****.

woodoo · 06-09-2011 10:00PM

jester77 wrote: »

The person should be grateful that they were invited to share the day with them.

Should they hell its a bloody sentence. And a costly one at that

jluv · 06-09-2011 10:07PM

If I was dating someone for 3 months and my sister said I couldn't have him come to the wedding with me then we would have a problem. Understand not asking someone for the sake of it but if you are seeing them it's different..

headmaster · 07-09-2011 12:12AM

I've been talking to a few people on this topic and all say, happy people with confidence love going on their own, people who really cannot connect are always the ones complaining. Everyone i've spoken to, agree that it's insulting and a show of very bad manners, to expect an invite for someone the bride and groom do not know.
I'd imagine all cultured people would agree any invite is an honour, it would be for me as well.

epgc3fyqirnbsx · 07-09-2011 12:16AM

Weddings are number games, everyone I know who has got married said they want something fairly small but by the time they invite family, neughbours and those who've they have been to before the numbers are already quite big. So for the single mates or aquaintances they'll offer a single invite. If they're mates they wont really mind if you rsvp with a guest anyway

Azureus · 07-09-2011 11:05AM

u_c_thesecond wrote: »

im getting married and i have a similar situation where as my sisters dating a man 3 months and wants him to come- ive never met him in my life and wont till my wedding day so i said no- and shes throwing a fit!

I don't think that single friends/family should automatically get a +1 on their invites, purely because I wouldn't want a stranger at my wedding and itd drive costs up for the sake of someone I didnt know. Obviously for particularly shy friends etc you could say to them that if they wanted to they could bring someone-you know yourself who will be comfortable and who wont be.
But in the case of the above, where its my own sister, and shes dating a man 3 months (granted, hardly long term-but they're still dating and its family!) I would definately want her to bring him along!

I dont agree with whoever said 'all cultured people' would be honoured to have an invite to a wedding either-Id consider myself fairly cultured, but I definately wouldnt see myself as 'honoured' to be invited to a friends/family cermony. Excited for my friends yes, looking forward to it, depends on the wedding, but honoured? It makes it sound like us lowly folk should be grateful that we are part of a happy married couples expensive party.

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