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How do you deal with bullying?

  • 18-12-2013 10:32PM
    #1
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭


    The problem is the indirect bullying. Demeaning and troll comments on twitter and other online-social means. This person has had a vendetta against me ever since I called them out on their bullying, so now they bully me instead. Does anyone know what to do when they start becoming more invasive? I've recently got a lot of knocking on my front door and I'm almost sure it's the same person.

    I think the person is around 18 or so and acts very immature even outside of the knocking.
    I don't have constant contact with this person, they do still try egg me on from online/when we do meet up, however and I can't block all their accounts/attempts.

    I was thinking of deleting my twitter account and others but that just gives them what they wanted. Any other ideas?


Comments

  • #2
    SingItOut
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,009 ✭✭✭SingItOut


    Don't delete any of your accounts. You say you don't have much contact with this person? Why are you responding to them at all? Don't give them the time of day! Ignore them. Just block them out of your life. If this person is showing up at your house that's pretty creepy, tell them you will contact the guards if it continues. If they show up again you know what to do.


  • #3
    Pawwed Rig
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 22,436 ✭✭✭✭Pawwed Rig


    Just ignore them or block them where you can. The knocking on the door part is weird though. Is there anyway you could catch them in the act?


  • #4
    ladygirl
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 187 ✭✭ladygirl


    Dont delete your account. There is no reason you should have to suffer as a result of tneir actions. However - NEVER respond to them, regardless of how much they harass you.. This person is craving a reaction - if you do not give it - they will tire of this petty game.. However responding will only add fuel to their fire.

    Also in the process others will see them for the sad individuals that they are. Bullies have a quick way of isolating themselves.. Keep your head high

    Congratulations for taking a stand against bullying in the first place - all too many are too quick to turn their heads and pretend its not happening,,


  • #5
    freshpopcorn
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 31,580 ✭✭✭✭freshpopcorn


    SoftCarpet wrote: »
    T. This person has had a vendetta against me ever since I called them out on their bullying, so now they bully me instead.
    What was the bullying incident just out of interest?
    SoftCarpet wrote: »
    I've recently got a lot of knocking on my front door and I'm almost sure it's the same person.
    The problem is your almost sure. You have to be pretty sure before you stat accusing them

    There's no point of deleting your account. Just try and ignore them. What age are you by the way?


  • #6
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,012 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    freshpopcorn wrote: »
    What was the bullying incident just out of interest?


    The problem is your almost sure. You have to be pretty sure before you stat accusing them

    There's no point of deleting your account. Just try and ignore them. What age are you by the way?

    He was harassing someone who is a transsexual then acted all mighty about it. I told him to cut his sh- out and grow up. He has it in his mind that he wants to post my information on 4chan because he says "I'm weird too".

    The PM's include subtle references to the door knocking like "knock knock who's there? I am!" sort of spiel. Also I'd say they are something like 18, maybe 17 years old. I only meet them at an odd time through friends. Doesn't happen a lot but it does happen at an odd time.
    ladygirl wrote: »
    Also in the process others will see them for the sad individuals that they are. Bullies have a quick way of isolating themselves..

    This guy boasts about his online troll friends. Even if my friends and others are sick of his bestiality stories (long story) he'll still be quite vocal about his online friends and their secret troll groups on IRC/tinychat. I don't think real-world social isolation would make this guy see what's wrong with his actions. I think it'll eventually just end up feeding him bad behaviours. Not that I want to hang out with him.

    I might've gone and deleted a few accounts last night... Ugh, I don't know what I was thinking... Going to try get the accounts back before he realises.

    Thanks though everyone for the advice/support. I wish I had read it sooner.


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