Would you date someone who has opposite political views to you?

28-06-2015 02:55PM

I know opposites attract for a lot of people, but for me, I think shared values are important.

Not identical values, but along the same broad strokes as myself is important to me. It's actually something I find attractive in a person, a like mind.

Earthhorse · 28-06-2015 03:03PM

I don't see how you could date someone with the opposite views to you.

So you are pro gay rights but they're not. You are for gun control they're not. You are for social support they're not. Opposite means diametrically opposed not just we disagree on a few minor things.

I could, of course, date someone who had different views to me but not someone whose views were the opposite of mine.

Not a NSA agent · 28-06-2015 03:30PM

Depends, if they wouldnt have sex because its a form of oppression or started hanging swatikas up then it probably wouldnt work out. Less extreme stuff would be fine, its more how they act about it rather than what they think.

RayM · 28-06-2015 06:10PM

It would depend on what the views are, how strongly they're held, and her reasons for holding them. If she was the kind of tiresome right-wing bore that you regularly find ranting about Muslims, Travellers, single mothers, social welfare, etc on Boards (you know the type... doesn't think an opinion is worth holding unless it's really obnoxious), then definitely not. Actually, if she was that kind of person, there's at least a 99% chance that she'd be male anyway.

One eyed Jack · 28-06-2015 06:53PM

RayM wrote: »

It would depend on what the views are, how strongly they're held, and her reasons for holding them. If she was the kind of tiresome right-wing left-wing bore that you regularly find ranting about Muslims, Travellers, single mothers, social welfare, etc on Boards (you know the type... doesn't think an opinion is worth holding unless it's really obnoxious), then definitely not. Actually, if she was that kind of person, there's at least a 99% chance that she'd be male anyway.

Cuts both ways that does Ray, and applies exactly the same way and all :pac:

I'm with my wife 17 years, we couldn't be more diametrically opposed, chalk and cheese on many issues and both as stubborn as mules. Actually the fact we're both as stubborn as mules is probably the one thing we have in common. We stay out of each other's way, seems to work well :pac:

Seriously though, we don't actually stay out of each other's way, we just live very independent lives. Even being married, or dating each other or whatever, doesn't mean you have to lose your own individuality. What matters more is that you can respect each other's individuality.*

*Even if you can't agree with half the stuff they come out with!

Diamond Doll · 28-06-2015 07:15PM

Meh political debates aren't part of my day-to-day life, and I like it that way. So I'd probably actually find it hard to find someone with opposite political views to me, as I don't really have all that many strong political views to begin with.

I do feel strongly about issues such as choice when it comes to pregnancy, and marriage equality, to name just a couple, but I'd consider issues like those to be humanitarian rather than political issues.

I think I'd respect a person a bit less if I found out that they always voted FF/FG/whatever because that's just what their family had always done. I mean it's not hard to do a bit of research and come to your own conclusions.

my teapot is orange · 28-06-2015 07:32PM

Different political views wouldn't be a problem. If they were into anything extreme that was likely to get them into trouble, it would be a deal breaker. I don't need. I do like a person who is as independent, self-sufficient, capable and generally a together adult as much as possible. I don't know if there is any correlation between this and political beliefs. "If you’re not a socialist before you’re twenty-five, you have no heart; if you are a socialist after twenty-five, you have no head." Only joking!

masculinist · 28-06-2015 09:07PM

Eugene Norman wrote: »

No. That said although I am left wing economically most modern identity politics leaves me cold. If a woman on a date accused me of mansplaining that wouldn't augur well for the future.

I thought I was going to say it wouldnt matter but then this post above ^^^^^

No way would I date a feminist. Its a selfish credo.

osarusan · 28-06-2015 09:49PM

I'm married, but anyway. Does dating mean seeing if things could turn into an actual relationship? I presume it does here.

So, it would depend on how important a particular belief was to me. Some are more important than others.

Somebody who was in favour of the death penalty? To be honest, I'd basically stop considering them as a potential partner in that case.

Somebody who wanted to cut the dole by 5%? Not an issue.

RDM_83 again · 28-06-2015 10:12PM

Earthhorse wrote: »

I don't see how you could date someone with the opposite views to you.

So you are pro gay rights but they're not. You are for gun control they're not. You are for social support they're not. Opposite means diametrically opposed not just we disagree on a few minor things.

I could, of course, date someone who had different views to me but not someone whose views were the opposite of mine.

Its depends though doesn't it, like I would much prefer the idea of somebody who actually hold themselves to their own internal ethics rather than somebody who says a lot of nice things but doesn't hold themselves to them.
Example of the type of thing I mean is the Gamergate woman with the "cheating is like rape" view.
If somebody has their own ethics at least if you disagree you know what your getting and to me (hypothetically) that would be more important.
Also divisions tend to be magnified if its actually a topic that comes up often , I would doubt that it does in most relationships

Would you date someone who has opposite political views to you?

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